Dee74

last part here:

https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...-444-a-20.html (24 Hour Recovery Connections Part 444)
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Coldfusion

Thanks for the new thread, Dee!

It's 24 more hours sober for me.

9:31 PM on Orcas Island.

Pinky1

Morning, 07.30 UK

Looks like it's going to be a lovely day. Looking forward to a nice weekend off work

24 more sober hours please ♥️

Daisybelle

07.32

Thanks for the new thread Dee.

24 more for me please. Happy Saturday to all of you. xx

Mags1

24 more here too please
7.35am Saturday

Guener

24 more for me, too, please

gatorman

24 more please

kenton

Great to see you PippoRossi! I always loved your posts and particularly enjoyed reading about your adventures. I remember you writing about a ghost town you visited once. I loved reading about that. Look, I'm going to be honest. I'm 95% certain it was you that wrote about the ghost town but there's a chance I'm mistaken. It was a couple of years ago …..I apologise if I'm wrong...I'm sorry if it wasn't you... I tried to look through the old threads but that is a mammoth job beyond my capabilities. Anyway, to sum up.... I'm really happy to see you again PippoRossi xxxx

I had a dream about Pebbles last night. I haven't heard from her for ages. I hope she's ok. I remember when I visited her in Portsmouth. We had such a lovely time and now we've lost touch. I feel like I haven't been a very good friend. Pebbles, if you're reading this, please check in. Please let us know you're ok. I'd love to come and see you again.


Whilst I'm unburdening my soul, I feel like I haven't been a very good friend to someone else. One of my best friends in real life is expecting her first baby which is wonderful news. But she's always suffered from anxiety and I fear her anxiety is ruining what should be a magical time. She is stressing about everything. And I mean everything. All our other friends seem to be buying into the anxiety.... they're feeding the doom and gloom. I'm trying to be as supportive as possible whilst remaining honest. I've offered to go to yoga, mindfulness, reiki with her.... I've offered to take her for a trip to the coast so we can get out of the city and breathe in fresh sea air. But she doesn't seem to want those suggestions. Instead she wants to panic about what to pack in her hospital bag and she's panicking so much, she's not getting anything done. Day after day …. her anxiety is literally paralysing her. I've tried to speak to her husband, her mum, her sister..... but no one seems able to say what needs to be said. She needs help. There's nothing wrong with needing help but everyone is acting like needing help is something to be ashamed of. Like it's a sign of weakness. And the baby hasn't even arrived yet. This morning she's been on the phone in tears again panicking about what to pack in her hospital bag and I got honest. Really honest. I told her the hospital bag doesn't matter. If she forgets to pack something, I can get it and drive it to the hospital. I told her the big issue is her anxiety. Babies can sense anxiety, they pick up on it. And the anxiety won't be doing her baby any good now, whilst still in the womb. I told her she needs to do whatever she needs to do to get the anxiety under control and I will do whatever I can to help her. Then she got angry. She said that I don't understand because I sailed through pregnancy and child birth (didn't feel like that at the time) and that if I was a proper friend I'd try harder to understand what she's going through. Then she hung up. And just now I've had a message from her husband telling me she's really upset. And it's all my fault. Naturally, I've apologised. I never wanted to upset her. I get the impression it's convenient that I can now be the scapegoat for her upset. Easier to blame me than confront the anxiety. But this has really made me think.

Am I a bad friend? I'm not sure. I think if I was still drinking, I'd go along with saying what my friend wants to hear. That would be so much easier. I could just keep quiet and agree with all her worries and torment. But would that make me a good friend? I don't think so. Sobriety seems to have given me the strength and clarity to be honest. But is honesty always a good thing? My friend would say no. I guess this is an example of how I'm still trying to find that sacred middle ground. I've let my friend know that I love her and I'm here for her but I'm worried about her. I think that's all I can do. Thanks for letting me write this and get it out of my head. Onwards. Love to everyone and 24 more for me please xxxx

goose333

24 please
5:16 am EDT

Saskia

In for another 24

PhoenixJ

24

prayers for your friend, Kenton

Purplrks3647

(((Kenton))) It sounds like she's looking for attention....there's an Albert Einstein quote that says "Stay away from negative people; they have a problem for every solution." I'm not saying you should stop being friends w/ her, but you are not a bad friend for being honest. Like you said, the baby hasn't even arrived yet!

Sending good vibes that all will work itself out

FBL

Thanks for keeping the doors open, Dee!

It's 5:25 AM and I'm in for another sober 24.

tgirl

24 please

ChloeRose63

24 more for me, too!

zoeydog

24 more please. Good morning all, from Vermont.

Lostmyoffswitch

24 more please

OliveDog

Saturday 24 request. Thank you!

abcowboy