24 Hour Recovery Connection Part 324
sweet lilymaz 
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Hi soberleigh
This alcoholic soul need another 24 more.
If you can just observe what you are and move with it, then you will find that it is possible to go infinitely far.
—J. Krishnamurti
"Boys don't cry" is bad training for males. Worse than that were ideas like, "Don't pass up a dare," "Nice guys finish last," "Be a good provider," "Be aggressive." Some of these ideas have some value, but problems came from adopting them as the only way to be. We thought we had to work at being the strongest, the best, the least vulnerable. Now we are learning how weak and fragile such thinking actually makes men. It sets us up to go to the extremes we found in our addictions and codependency.
Weakness isn't the alternative to this thinking. Developing our spiritual side, we see that we don't have to work at being what we already are. A man can be strong enough to show his vulnerability. He can choose the opportunity to advance a relationship with his child over the opportunity to advance his career. He can choose to pass by a challenge without shame because he doesn't wish to spend his energy there.
I will be stronger today by simply allowing myself to be true to my feelings.
This alcoholic soul need another 24 more.
If you can just observe what you are and move with it, then you will find that it is possible to go infinitely far.
—J. Krishnamurti
"Boys don't cry" is bad training for males. Worse than that were ideas like, "Don't pass up a dare," "Nice guys finish last," "Be a good provider," "Be aggressive." Some of these ideas have some value, but problems came from adopting them as the only way to be. We thought we had to work at being the strongest, the best, the least vulnerable. Now we are learning how weak and fragile such thinking actually makes men. It sets us up to go to the extremes we found in our addictions and codependency.
Weakness isn't the alternative to this thinking. Developing our spiritual side, we see that we don't have to work at being what we already are. A man can be strong enough to show his vulnerability. He can choose the opportunity to advance a relationship with his child over the opportunity to advance his career. He can choose to pass by a challenge without shame because he doesn't wish to spend his energy there.
I will be stronger today by simply allowing myself to be true to my feelings.
erfra 
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Originally Posted by joandmelandhan 
Morning all! Snow has just started here looks like it may be around all day....
I just can't shake off anxiety again. To be honest its work I've been given a tough job to do and I'm like a rabbit in the headlights. Then when I get like this everything is too much. Somehow I need to work on that or I'll be a wreck. So its back to basics. Keep everything super simple and calm. So today it's food shop, shuffle washing, watch Elf with Melly and take Hannah to her netball Christmas party. Hopefully without drama and panic and tears.
One step forward two steps back that's how it feels right now but my resolve to be sober is super strong. That's got to be good?
I wish you all a lovely day. Let's pull together through this mad period guys
I just can't shake off anxiety again. To be honest its work I've been given a tough job to do and I'm like a rabbit in the headlights. Then when I get like this everything is too much. Somehow I need to work on that or I'll be a wreck. So its back to basics. Keep everything super simple and calm. So today it's food shop, shuffle washing, watch Elf with Melly and take Hannah to her netball Christmas party. Hopefully without drama and panic and tears.
One step forward two steps back that's how it feels right now but my resolve to be sober is super strong. That's got to be good?
I wish you all a lovely day. Let's pull together through this mad period guys
A new assignment always stressed me until I got into it and realized it was going to be okay.
Enlist support, ask questions, etc. You've got this.
, sickof
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