24 Hour Recovery Connections Part 100
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Congrats to all the milestoners today ! Keep marching on with serenity and commitment, one day at a time !
I realise that we often say that it doesn't matter what length of sobriety time we have, its still one day at a time. Well, this point was proven to me recently. My wife left a big bottle of vodka on the kitchen bench a few weeks ago. She is a normal drinker who on occasion likes to drink spirits. We normally have wine in our fridge so I thought it wasn't a big deal. However, over the past weeks I kept seeing this bottle of vodka and was surprised that I felt uneasy and annoyed. Despite having a couple of years sobriety. Then I had a dream about drinking. Thats when the red flags began sprouting. I asked her to remove the bottle which she did, promptly. Presto, no more irritation. A great reminder to me that it is a daily reprieve and that one can never take one's sobriety for granted !
Another 24 hours of serenity, patience and sobriety pls ! Its 7:50am here !
I realise that we often say that it doesn't matter what length of sobriety time we have, its still one day at a time. Well, this point was proven to me recently. My wife left a big bottle of vodka on the kitchen bench a few weeks ago. She is a normal drinker who on occasion likes to drink spirits. We normally have wine in our fridge so I thought it wasn't a big deal. However, over the past weeks I kept seeing this bottle of vodka and was surprised that I felt uneasy and annoyed. Despite having a couple of years sobriety. Then I had a dream about drinking. Thats when the red flags began sprouting. I asked her to remove the bottle which she did, promptly. Presto, no more irritation. A great reminder to me that it is a daily reprieve and that one can never take one's sobriety for granted !
Another 24 hours of serenity, patience and sobriety pls ! Its 7:50am here !
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Kanada thank for the share.
Neo new stay go to a AA meeting and tell someone how you feel, they will help. And don't pick up came here we all will be supporting you. Call AA hotline. Hey is you want I can call or email directly is not being easy either for me but I came here every day and post and now I'm calling people too, we do this together sometimes I dot one minute at the time. I pray to what I understand is God. Hugs my friend we love you.
Neo new stay go to a AA meeting and tell someone how you feel, they will help. And don't pick up came here we all will be supporting you. Call AA hotline. Hey is you want I can call or email directly is not being easy either for me but I came here every day and post and now I'm calling people too, we do this together sometimes I dot one minute at the time. I pray to what I understand is God. Hugs my friend we love you.
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Originally Posted by Kaneda8888 
Congrats to all the milestoners today ! Keep marching on with serenity and commitment, one day at a time !
I realise that we often say that it doesn't matter what length of sobriety time we have, its still one day at a time. Well, this point was proven to me recently. My wife left a big bottle of vodka on the kitchen bench a few weeks ago. She is a normal drinker who on occasion likes to drink spirits. We normally have wine in our fridge so I thought it wasn't a big deal. However, over the past weeks I kept seeing this bottle of vodka and was surprised that I felt uneasy and annoyed. Despite having a couple of years sobriety. Then I had a dream about drinking. Thats when the red flags began sprouting. I asked her to remove the bottle which she did, promptly. Presto, no more irritation. A great reminder to me that it is a daily reprieve and that one can never take one's sobriety for granted !
Another 24 hours of serenity, patience and sobriety pls ! Its 7:50am here !
I realise that we often say that it doesn't matter what length of sobriety time we have, its still one day at a time. Well, this point was proven to me recently. My wife left a big bottle of vodka on the kitchen bench a few weeks ago. She is a normal drinker who on occasion likes to drink spirits. We normally have wine in our fridge so I thought it wasn't a big deal. However, over the past weeks I kept seeing this bottle of vodka and was surprised that I felt uneasy and annoyed. Despite having a couple of years sobriety. Then I had a dream about drinking. Thats when the red flags began sprouting. I asked her to remove the bottle which she did, promptly. Presto, no more irritation. A great reminder to me that it is a daily reprieve and that one can never take one's sobriety for granted !
Another 24 hours of serenity, patience and sobriety pls ! Its 7:50am here !
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Originally Posted by Kaneda8888
Congrats to all the milestoners today ! Keep marching on with serenity and commitment, one day at a time ! I realise that we often say that it doesn't matter what length of sobriety time we have, its still one day at a time. Well, this point was proven to me recently. My wife left a big bottle of vodka on the kitchen bench a few weeks ago. She is a normal drinker who on occasion likes to drink spirits. We normally have wine in our fridge so I thought it wasn't a big deal. However, over the past weeks I kept seeing this bottle of vodka and was surprised that I felt uneasy and annoyed. Despite having a couple of years sobriety. Then I had a dream about drinking. Thats when the red flags began sprouting. I asked her to remove the bottle which she did, promptly. Presto, no more irritation. A great reminder to me that it is a daily reprieve and that one can never take one's sobriety for granted ! Another 24 hours of serenity, patience and sobriety pls ! Its 7:50am here !
To all those in the same boat just keep working your plan and things will get better.
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Originally Posted by mcflurry
Hello everyone, day 7 for me, 22.50pm UK time.
Husband and his friend are trying to build a wardrobe with limited success
I'm another one thinking of you Neo and hoping you stay strong.
Husband and his friend are trying to build a wardrobe with limited success
I'm another one thinking of you Neo and hoping you stay strong.
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Originally Posted by EternalNow
My wife drinks Bourbon everyday and smokes weed every night. I'm not clear on the whole thing because we have been together so long, or are we really together? Very confused on this topic. I have shared this in the alanon forum but no one seems to have any advice that I find helpful. The advise I get is to detach, which challenges the very foundations of marriage. Sorry to be so heavy. Probably the wrong place to get into this, but even this situation will not cause me to drink because my life is so much better without it.
To all those in the same boat just keep working your plan and things will get better.
To all those in the same boat just keep working your plan and things will get better.
Detachment does seem contrary to the concept of marriage, EternalNow. Have you and your wife spoken about her drinking and marijuana use? I think that what is intended by 'detachment' is that you recognize that you are not responsible for her drinking or usage - you didn't cause it and you cannot fix it (and detach from responsibility). You can only be supportive of her recovery (if she chooses it).
What is important is to keep your own alcoholism as your main priority. Just as you have taken full ownership of your addiction, your wife will need to do the same if her drinking or usage is problematic; she will need to own it and take responsibility for her recovery.
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