Class of May 2012 part 18
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Originally Posted by HitRockBottom70 
Sas,
I say this with love, I think you are reading too much into it and making it personal. I know you already feel raw and hurt and yes it may feel like the right thing to do now, but lashing out is not going to help. Not you, not anyone else. Believe me, my early days I did plenty of it and I regret just about everything I posted in anger.
As far oking things with Dee... I think he has quite enough on his plate already.
I say this with love, I think you are reading too much into it and making it personal. I know you already feel raw and hurt and yes it may feel like the right thing to do now, but lashing out is not going to help. Not you, not anyone else. Believe me, my early days I did plenty of it and I regret just about everything I posted in anger.
As far oking things with Dee... I think he has quite enough on his plate already.
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God, hope I'm not the cause of all this....
Please everyone keep on posting. It's this thread that keeps me going, and gives me strength.
I simply can't express how vital it is or how important every single one of you are to me.
I love you all loads xxx
Please everyone keep on posting. It's this thread that keeps me going, and gives me strength.
I simply can't express how vital it is or how important every single one of you are to me.
I love you all loads xxx
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hey guys
I don't want to, and won't become the referee - I think you guys are moire than capable of sorting out things that will come up in any thread from time to time
I think it's best though if you have issues with what someone else has said you pm to make sure what they meant.
These are meant to be support threads - we are all on the same team.
D
I don't want to, and won't become the referee - I think you guys are moire than capable of sorting out things that will come up in any thread from time to time
I think it's best though if you have issues with what someone else has said you pm to make sure what they meant.
These are meant to be support threads - we are all on the same team.
D
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Originally Posted by Jeni26
Shotgun. And I'm at my desk in the office!
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CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR 9 MONTHS MILESTONE, JENI!!!
CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR 10 MONTHS MILESTONE, BLOSS!!!
Mammoth is steppin' out and gettin' a good groove on at the club in honor of both of your superb sober accomplishments! Terrific job in staying steady on the path of sobriety! Much love to both of you.
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CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR 10 MONTHS MILESTONE, BLOSS!!!
Mammoth is steppin' out and gettin' a good groove on at the club in honor of both of your superb sober accomplishments! Terrific job in staying steady on the path of sobriety! Much love to both of you.
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(((Saskia and OneLess))). Bit of a tough time in the May boat, I noticed. I second what You-Rock said, "Ultimately, I want to see everyone succeed." And I agree with what Dee said about taking up post issues about someone's meaning in PM. I can only speak for myself, but reading long arguments between cherished and respected classmates makes me uncomfortable and sad. In earlier thread parts, I too, had caused/created arguments over my interpretation of members' intent, accurate or otherwise. While I wish I could have deleted those posts of mine, it was - and is - part of my process of learning and living in sobriety.
I do feel confident that if I posted in a drunken state tonight, throwing away 9+ months of sobriety, all of you would rush to my aid, talk me down from the ledge with caring advice (or tough love, as needed), and welcome me back with open arms while I picked up the pieces. We all would do that for anyone here - newbie or veteran. I love that about our class. As a whole, you are all more valuable to me than any single person I've ever met. Truly.
When one of us slips and posts about it, I feel the defeat in their words. Not one of us wants to feel that way again, and it has taken me these months of sobriety to understand how difficult and courageous it is to confess a slip or relapse out loud; reaching out for hugs and hoping people understand. And we do understand, which is why it is a little scary to read it sometimes. It reminds me how close I could be in doing the same, if not for the continuous support to achieve and maintain sobriety.
Hugs to both of you, Sas and OneLess. We are all in this together, no matter where we are in our counts. I hope you two can work this out amicably. Feel free to post or PM me for an extra set of shoulders. Love and hugs to all.
I do feel confident that if I posted in a drunken state tonight, throwing away 9+ months of sobriety, all of you would rush to my aid, talk me down from the ledge with caring advice (or tough love, as needed), and welcome me back with open arms while I picked up the pieces. We all would do that for anyone here - newbie or veteran. I love that about our class. As a whole, you are all more valuable to me than any single person I've ever met. Truly.
When one of us slips and posts about it, I feel the defeat in their words. Not one of us wants to feel that way again, and it has taken me these months of sobriety to understand how difficult and courageous it is to confess a slip or relapse out loud; reaching out for hugs and hoping people understand. And we do understand, which is why it is a little scary to read it sometimes. It reminds me how close I could be in doing the same, if not for the continuous support to achieve and maintain sobriety.
Hugs to both of you, Sas and OneLess. We are all in this together, no matter where we are in our counts. I hope you two can work this out amicably. Feel free to post or PM me for an extra set of shoulders. Love and hugs to all.
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FP-love the pics, you are awesome xxx
I'm feeling a great deal of sadness at the moment, keeping busy is helping as I feel as if I stop I will be overwhelmed by it.
Saturday and going to therapy is something I must face no matter how hard. I know that. H is taking me away for the rest of the weekend so I can look forward to something. He is being caring and supportive but I'm not able to look forward with any real feeling to that. I'm pretending to, but just can't.
Please everyone, lets keep this thread going. FP's post was brilliant.
We are all in this together. And I need you all xxx
I'm feeling a great deal of sadness at the moment, keeping busy is helping as I feel as if I stop I will be overwhelmed by it.
Saturday and going to therapy is something I must face no matter how hard. I know that. H is taking me away for the rest of the weekend so I can look forward to something. He is being caring and supportive but I'm not able to look forward with any real feeling to that. I'm pretending to, but just can't.
Please everyone, lets keep this thread going. FP's post was brilliant.
We are all in this together. And I need you all xxx
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Morning, my beloved boaters! Running late on too little sleep... what else is new? LOL! Here's a fun joke for everyone:
Lie Detecting Robot
A man buys a lie detector robot that slaps people who lie. He decides to test it at dinner.
Dad: Son, where were you today during school hours?
Son: At school.
The robot slaps the son.
Son: Ok! I watched a DVD at my friend's house.
Dad: Which one?
Son: Kung Fu Panda.
The robot slaps the son again.
Son: Ok! It was a Porno.
Dad: WHAT? When I was your age I didn’t even know what porn was!
The robot slaps the Dad.
Mom: Hahahahaha! After all he’s your son.
The robot slaps the mom...
Have a wonderfully sober day/evening, everybody! Love and hugs to all.
Lie Detecting Robot
A man buys a lie detector robot that slaps people who lie. He decides to test it at dinner.
Dad: Son, where were you today during school hours?
Son: At school.
The robot slaps the son.
Son: Ok! I watched a DVD at my friend's house.
Dad: Which one?
Son: Kung Fu Panda.
The robot slaps the son again.
Son: Ok! It was a Porno.
Dad: WHAT? When I was your age I didn’t even know what porn was!
The robot slaps the Dad.
Mom: Hahahahaha! After all he’s your son.
The robot slaps the mom...
Have a wonderfully sober day/evening, everybody! Love and hugs to all.
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Good morning, Mayans,
I want to apologize for yesterday to everyone and especially OLL. I'm sad to see the activity on this thread drop to near zero and will be devastated if I am the cause of that. Sadly my brain and body chemistry are not back up to par yet and probably it will be another week or two before they are. So meanwhile I'm touchier than usual. I will still be here but plan to stay fairly quiet for now until things stabilize.
Jeni, I very much missed your morning check in and hope I haven't scared you off!
I hope everyone has a good day!
FP, love the lie-detecting robot :-)
(((hugs)))
Sassy
I want to apologize for yesterday to everyone and especially OLL. I'm sad to see the activity on this thread drop to near zero and will be devastated if I am the cause of that. Sadly my brain and body chemistry are not back up to par yet and probably it will be another week or two before they are. So meanwhile I'm touchier than usual. I will still be here but plan to stay fairly quiet for now until things stabilize.
Jeni, I very much missed your morning check in and hope I haven't scared you off!
I hope everyone has a good day!
FP, love the lie-detecting robot :-)
(((hugs)))
Sassy
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Good Morning All,
Congratulations Kitty on Day 138
Jeni - Kudos to you for facing your fear of therapy and doing it anyway. Fear seems to be large factor in the recovery process. We discover without alcohol just how many different fears that we do have that we used to try and tame with the use of alcohol. You are such a strong woman and such an inspiration to me Your hubby sounds so very thoughtful in planning something nice for the week-end. As Sas said we will all be with you!
FP - Your post on the disagreement with OLL and Sas was well thought out and spot on as always. I think in any interpersonal relationships that disagreements will occur. Especially in early sobriety when sensitivities may run high.
((OLL)) - I hope you post soon. We all miss you!
Sas - Apology accepted. I am certainly not going to stop posting. I have made too many good friends and just an incredible amount of love and support.
Yesterday was a good day for me. I did manage to make it out and attend the AA meeting and pick up my 7 month chip. I actually managed to share and that is no small feat I am hoping to attend another AA meeting tonight and pick up another chip.
Wishing everyone a wonderful Tuesday!
Congratulations Kitty on Day 138
Jeni - Kudos to you for facing your fear of therapy and doing it anyway. Fear seems to be large factor in the recovery process. We discover without alcohol just how many different fears that we do have that we used to try and tame with the use of alcohol. You are such a strong woman and such an inspiration to me
Your hubby sounds so very thoughtful in planning something nice for the week-end. As Sas said we will all be with you!FP - Your post on the disagreement with OLL and Sas was well thought out and spot on as always. I think in any interpersonal relationships that disagreements will occur. Especially in early sobriety when sensitivities may run high.
((OLL)) - I hope you post soon. We all miss you!
Sas - Apology accepted. I am certainly not going to stop posting. I have made too many good friends and just an incredible amount of love and support.
Yesterday was a good day for me. I did manage to make it out and attend the AA meeting and pick up my 7 month chip. I actually managed to share and that is no small feat
I am hoping to attend another AA meeting tonight and pick up another chip.Wishing everyone a wonderful Tuesday!
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I am not going anywhere. I just needed a cooling off period and I agree that personal issues between two people should not be aired in a lengthy back and forth on the public thread. The one thing I feel I can address publicly, and briefly, is the part where specific others were brought into this.
Saskia: "You've just made a number of us feel unwelcome -- myself, Em, SoberJane and anyone who might have wanted to return after a slip. By your definition, Lee shouldn't have come back here after his slip and yet he is a terrific example for all of us."
I believe people should be allowed to formulate their own opinions. I also believe my multiple statements that I was not saying people who have slipped since May should not post, speaks for itself. But since this quote feels like a rally against me, telling these people how to feel, I want to say one more time to them specifically: I'm glad you're here and I'm glad you're posting. I hope you know me enough by now to know that I do not have any malicious intentions.
Rest assured that this will be THE LAST statement from me on this matter.
Saskia: "You've just made a number of us feel unwelcome -- myself, Em, SoberJane and anyone who might have wanted to return after a slip. By your definition, Lee shouldn't have come back here after his slip and yet he is a terrific example for all of us."
I believe people should be allowed to formulate their own opinions. I also believe my multiple statements that I was not saying people who have slipped since May should not post, speaks for itself. But since this quote feels like a rally against me, telling these people how to feel, I want to say one more time to them specifically: I'm glad you're here and I'm glad you're posting. I hope you know me enough by now to know that I do not have any malicious intentions.
Rest assured that this will be THE LAST statement from me on this matter.
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