namommy

I don't know when it happened, I kind of know how it happened.

When my husband and I first met, I only had 4 months clean, He had 8 years. He taught me so much about the steps, the traditions, and recovery in general.

He taught me most of all how to have faith.

Well, we are going through a financial situation (AGAIN) which is nothing new in this house. It used to be ME who worried all the time and got miserable and grumpy over the finances. Now, HE is miserable and grumpy, worried and nuts over money, and I am the one telling him to 'Have Faith', It will work out, it ALWAYS does. We always seem to be able to get the things we need.

I just feel like there has been this total transition of roles in this house, and I don't really like it.

abtchonamission

LOL - I think you and your husband are the twins to me and Mike. I used to be worried about money all the time, HE always said "spend it, I can make more." Now, HE'S always worring about money, and I'm always telling him that things will work out, something will happen to make it possible. And I know what you mean about not liking it. I wonder what is more stressful, worrying about money, or worrying about the PERSON worrying about money.

Maybe we should dump them off somewhere they can worry about money together, and you and I can go shopping.

namommy

Hey, That works for me! lol

Gooch

lol....

always remind me ..............."we're subject to change without notice" just in case I forget.

angelgirl

This is so strange, I am thinking we have a pattern here. I ALWAYS took care of the money, my husband lived in his own little world, he just spent it, never knowing how bills were paid. Now after 17 years, we are being taken to court (actually Monday is one of my court dates) and he said a couple of months ago, HE was taking over the money. I said, " MORE POWER TO YOU!!! YOU CAN HAVE IT ", now he is the one that is handling this financial mess. I have so many hospital/medical bills from my addiction, they have all caught up. I am worried about it, but it has also really helped me, to have him finally handle the money. I say, let them have it!! LOL. Love, Becky

Roxann

Wow, it's happening here too!! It's an epidemic!!

namommy

UGH!!

We had a big fight last night. Of course with all his pissin' and moanin' about money, he got on my nerves, and I had to open my big mouth with the "If you had a sponsor and practiced a program...blah....blah....blah.." line at him. This only made matters worse.

My big mouth causes more trouble than it's worth sometimes.

Paulie

Maybe the roles have changed right now for a reason? Maybe for whatever reason your faith needs to be shown.

Hmmmm, wonder what HP is up to with this one.

mackat

"If you had a sponsor and practiced a program...blah....blah....blah.." line at him. This only made matters worse.

LOL!!!!!

just when i had you nominated for sainthood.....

i remember how i bout went to strangle mode when my 10 yr old said to me: "dad, you need a meeting" didn't matter that he was right

and of course i would immediately hear it from my sponsor, from my best fren.....
and i'm sure you know how addict brain reacted to all THAT wonderful advice.... group strangling!!!!

sheesh-how'd my wiring get so flucked up?

could it be the drugs?

namommy

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I get "Mom, go to a meeting, I'll baby-sit" That's when I KNOW things are getting bad when they voluteer to baby-sit. lol

Thanks Mack, I needed that laugh.

Paulie, All I know is I want HP to stop F'ing with me for a while. I don't want to learn anything right now. (whine, whine )

abtchonamission

Laurie,

I hear you so clearly...I really do.


NOW, about that shopping spree - your state or mine?

Paulie

I get that totally, I have been there many times myself. But you know as well as I do, sometimes his plan is not that obvious to us at first.

namommy

Paulie,
Can I borrow your curtain to peek from, so he can't find me.lol

Btch,
Do you have Wal-mart? (It's all I can afford) lol

abtchonamission

LOL - we have a brand new SUPER Walmart. And a Tuesday Morning, which is pretty cheap, Big Lots, and Plej's. All cheap...which is good, because my budget has turned into non-existant.

splendra

namommy

SUPER Wal-Mart!!! ROAD TRIP!!

Come on Splendra and anyone else. A Ladies shopping Spree!

Kahlia

That is not the solution but I have read enough of your posts to know that YOU know that.....let him BE him right now....it is OK.....we all go through our little "incidences" as I call them.....keep saying the serenity prayer, sister!!!! Kahlia

abtchonamission

LOL - They had all the stuff to complete my ducky bathroom...except something to make the toilet 'quack' when you flush it...Mike keeps saying that someday he's gonna invent something BIG - he should invent that. I know a forum full of codies that would laugh every time their A flushed!

I DO have to go back there though. The ducky wall border wasn't quite long enough to go around the entire bathroom.

namommy

Well, he informed me this morning that he has done some soul searching, and he just doesn't know. He can't find it in himself. Find that desire to go back.

I surrender. My heart is broken, and I just can't fight anymore. I surrender.

Between him and my kids fighting with each other all morning. and that lovely bombshell, Mother's day sux this year.

And to top it all off, I am sick.

abtchonamission

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