My H is using Meth again!!! Help!
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My H is using Meth again!!! Help!
Hi everyone,
Iv'e been reading posts here for a little while and thought I would post myself for some advise.
My H left 3 months ago and currently lives in his office...we have a 16 month old baby. Althought we have had problems throughout our marriage Im becoming to realize that maybe it was the drugs that emotionally detached us from eachother.
He started with pot...and this has never stoped and then to Meth....he was arrested twice and put into a program here in southern california called drug court. He got tested three times a week for 1 year..He was forced to stop cold turkey with no real in house rehab. All he did was go to group and individual meetings weekly.
it seems with all I read that a person cant get off meth without some "real" treatment. So now Im left wondering how he did it. Is it possible that he can stop whenever he wishes.
Although that year was hard for him...maybe the fear of jail kept him clean.
He has lost 45 pounds in about 3 months and sends me these horriblly awful e mail at about how i was the worst wife and how i ruined the 8 years of his life i was with him..and that hes so glad were not together anymore. Do you think the drugs makes him speak such vile @#%$...or can I believe there is at least some truth to it. He knows Im having a very hard time with being separated and he tells me that i need to find someone else to make this process easier for me...he says hes moved on and is already dating.
This separation is sooooo hard on me...as I do have my own dependancy issues, but besides that I do want him back....we have a small baby and I want to help him through his problem.
Sometimes I think Im the crazy one! How could I want someone that has said the most horrid things to me???
But maybe its just the drugs..i dont know...maybe he started using again because being married and having a baby at 25 is too much for a person to handle. Hes a very complex and intence person that requires adrenaline daily...as he says.
What kills me the most is that he already has a profile with pictures on a dating ad on the web...talk about a stab in the heart. We were married for 4 years...together 8.
I appreciate any info. you all can offer.
Sincerely,
Iv'e been reading posts here for a little while and thought I would post myself for some advise.
My H left 3 months ago and currently lives in his office...we have a 16 month old baby. Althought we have had problems throughout our marriage Im becoming to realize that maybe it was the drugs that emotionally detached us from eachother.
He started with pot...and this has never stoped and then to Meth....he was arrested twice and put into a program here in southern california called drug court. He got tested three times a week for 1 year..He was forced to stop cold turkey with no real in house rehab. All he did was go to group and individual meetings weekly.
it seems with all I read that a person cant get off meth without some "real" treatment. So now Im left wondering how he did it. Is it possible that he can stop whenever he wishes.
Although that year was hard for him...maybe the fear of jail kept him clean.
He has lost 45 pounds in about 3 months and sends me these horriblly awful e mail at about how i was the worst wife and how i ruined the 8 years of his life i was with him..and that hes so glad were not together anymore. Do you think the drugs makes him speak such vile @#%$...or can I believe there is at least some truth to it. He knows Im having a very hard time with being separated and he tells me that i need to find someone else to make this process easier for me...he says hes moved on and is already dating.
This separation is sooooo hard on me...as I do have my own dependancy issues, but besides that I do want him back....we have a small baby and I want to help him through his problem.
Sometimes I think Im the crazy one! How could I want someone that has said the most horrid things to me???
But maybe its just the drugs..i dont know...maybe he started using again because being married and having a baby at 25 is too much for a person to handle. Hes a very complex and intence person that requires adrenaline daily...as he says.
What kills me the most is that he already has a profile with pictures on a dating ad on the web...talk about a stab in the heart. We were married for 4 years...together 8.
I appreciate any info. you all can offer.
Sincerely,
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Iv'e been reading posts here for a little while and thought I would post myself for some advise.
it seems with all I read that a person cant get off meth without some "real" treatment. So now Im left wondering how he did it. Is it possible that he can stop whenever he wishes.
Do you think the drugs makes him speak such vile @#%$...or can I believe there is at least some truth to it. He knows Im having a very hard time with being separated and he tells me that i need to find someone else to make this process easier for me...he says hes moved on and is already dating.
But maybe its just the drugs..i dont know...maybe he started using again because being married and having a baby at 25 is too much for a person to handle. Hes a very complex and intence person that requires adrenaline daily...as he says.
What kills me the most is that he already has a profile with pictures on a dating ad on the web...talk about a stab in the heart. We were married for 4 years...together 8.
best wishes!!!
cleo -
I am truly sorry for what you are going through. I could sit here and type my story for days to you but it won't help. The truth is he is an addict and he will not get help until he wants to get help. Hop on over to the Naranon board here and get to know some of the people there. They are going through or have been through exactly your situation.
I will tell you that when I put drugs in my body I am a different person, my morals, my sense of caring, everything goes right out the window. I have such a loathing for myself that I loath everyone around me and I want them to know it. That does not make me a bad person, it makes me an addict who is a bad person when I use.
God Bless and please get some help for yourself and your child.
I am truly sorry for what you are going through. I could sit here and type my story for days to you but it won't help. The truth is he is an addict and he will not get help until he wants to get help. Hop on over to the Naranon board here and get to know some of the people there. They are going through or have been through exactly your situation.
I will tell you that when I put drugs in my body I am a different person, my morals, my sense of caring, everything goes right out the window. I have such a loathing for myself that I loath everyone around me and I want them to know it. That does not make me a bad person, it makes me an addict who is a bad person when I use.
God Bless and please get some help for yourself and your child.
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