needuall

My thought is that if I feel like I am being manipulated, I probably am.
Their nice gesture was just to get something from you.
This has been the case with the addicts I know.
So is the real person ever there?
Interested in your thoughts.

HardLessons

Hi

I don't think you will ever be able to figure this out in a way which makes sense.

Certainly the more we come to understand about addicts & addiction, the question of whether or not the real person is ever there becomes very cloudy.

I only knew mine as an active addict. Did I ever know the real person? Or is the real person simply an addict, living an addicted lifestyle, consumed by addiction thoughts.

I think its best to try to find the real person inside yourself.

Thanks

nytepassion

A happy addict is generally a high addict or an addict who knows their about to score.

Passion

hopeful4

I would say to trust your gut. In dealing with everyone in life, not just addicts.

PeacefulWater12

This has been my experience too, sadly.

Sissyfuss

If they're using drugs they will be using you.

thequest

With family in particular I know they are frequently playing a long game/con. They work hard on the set up, always have. They always go out of their way to say the right thing, create a certain perception/image and act completely different around different people which is frequently nothing more than butt kissing. They're always giving instructions making requests-don't talk about this, don't mention that etc.

Things got so bad/obvious that significant other told them do not talk money or any potential business ventures with their parents. They are no longer together. Their rich friends mostly ignored them and yet they openly admitted they maintained "a" relationship with them because one day they hoped to do business with them. It's been over a decade with one in particular.

They say a con works in part because it uses playing off of want people already want. And that should include what they want to see and hear.