Sometimes, the more I learn.....
Getting there!!
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Originally Posted by needingabreak 
Thanks for the laugh! I am sure Vale doesn't mind and he wants us all to ne happy doesn't he?????
Of course he does, and if not......we can always make him feel guilty.
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Credit card number to follow.....
It's OK to post it on the open internet, right?
(true story-she DID ask me to give her 'bail guy' my CC#,
as funny as it is sad...and an excellent indicator of how
truly off the page of reality they operate.)
It's OK to post it on the open internet, right?
(true story-she DID ask me to give her 'bail guy' my CC#,
as funny as it is sad...and an excellent indicator of how
truly off the page of reality they operate.)
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Ann...this was perfect:
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I remember something said by an dear early member of SR, Just Tires or JT as she became known as. She said "Detaching with love means not squealing your tires as you drive away."That means we can detach without blaming or shaming or throwing a guilt trip on anyone, we can simple pray for them, wish them all the best and let go of our need to control what they do or don't do next.
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................just perfect. By this high standard, I think I acquitted myself well. And I am at peace with my actions in what was a horrifically difficult situation.
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I remember something said by an dear early member of SR, Just Tires or JT as she became known as. She said "Detaching with love means not squealing your tires as you drive away."That means we can detach without blaming or shaming or throwing a guilt trip on anyone, we can simple pray for them, wish them all the best and let go of our need to control what they do or don't do next.
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................just perfect. By this high standard, I think I acquitted myself well. And I am at peace with my actions in what was a horrifically difficult situation.
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Originally Posted by needingabreak
I'll go with you to get that tattoo ...............but not on the eyelids
It is so hard trying to be supportive yet not be involved. Sounds like he is still trying to pull you in and get your support and sympathy (and try to control you).
You know that you cannot control what he will do and you cannot walk on eggshells and do what he wants just in case it will push him to want to use. he needs to learn to deal with life without running to drugs every time. That is something HE has to work on and something you are not responsible for. I too have had difficulty with this myself with my son. Now I am so tired of it all i just leave it all up to him. I refuse to tip toe around "just in case." We deserve to have a life we can enjoy! HUGS.
It is so hard trying to be supportive yet not be involved. Sounds like he is still trying to pull you in and get your support and sympathy (and try to control you).
You know that you cannot control what he will do and you cannot walk on eggshells and do what he wants just in case it will push him to want to use. he needs to learn to deal with life without running to drugs every time. That is something HE has to work on and something you are not responsible for. I too have had difficulty with this myself with my son. Now I am so tired of it all i just leave it all up to him. I refuse to tip toe around "just in case." We deserve to have a life we can enjoy! HUGS.
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