Onewithwings

I just needed someplace to put this out there, that I am worried about my little brother. He is 25 and abuses drugs and alcohol, and I don't know much other than that since we live on opposite sides of the country and don't see each other often, last time I saw him I was still in my own addiction (I have 10.5 months clean). He is not too social but he holds a job he's had for 6 years and does fairly well for himself despite this issue. He was jailed for growing marijuana in Spring of 2012 and faced a 3rd degree felony and 1st degree misdemeanor but his best friend bailed him out and he barely got a slap on the wrist for it. It seems like he has never had to face any consequences for his using and that worries me, because consequences were what got me clean. I don't really have any questions, I just needed to get this off my chest.

Ann

First of all, congratulations on your own recovery and clean time.

It's hard watching anyone we love self destruct with drugs and alcohol, we recently saw a friend we hadn't seen in a couple of years and were sad to see how far he had fallen in just 2 years.

Your brother will have to find his own way and although you cannot change him or make him do it, perhaps the light you share on your own recovery will be a beacon of hope and inspiration to him.

Hugs

Kindeyes

Congrats on your clean time! That's great!

I think Ann's words were very wise. Sometimes the best way we can guide another to recovery is through our own.....

Some addicts are able to maintain some degree of normalcy for many years before the consequences begin to bite them. As difficult as it is to watch......sometimes consequences are the addict's best friend.

gentle hugs
ke

needingabreak

Hi, just wanted to let you know I am very sorry for your worries about your brother but also wanted to congratulate you on your 10.5 months of sobriety! That is fantastic!
I agree with Ann. Even though you are far away, your recovery can bring hope to him and be a positive influence on him. Never give up hope.