needingabreak

OMG. Really? I am crying and shaking right now. Months ago, my son drove his dealer with some bikes (he thought they were the dealers) to his house 30 minutes away. They ended up being stolen. MY son had no idea (he has never done anything illegal-except yes take pills) they were stolen. When the police came to the house to question him, he went down to the station and told them everything and showed them where he brought them.
The police said he could be charged with transporting but so far nothing has happened. We know the man who they were stolen from and felt terrible but did not contact because lawyer said not to.

The guy has been fine with us, we are friends on facebook even. ALL of a sudden, tonight, he lashes out on my WALL in front of everyone 'I lost 5,000...your kid drove the truck...cute junkie....f amends I want 5,000." I told him via private message not to ever post this to my wall again, that I am not responsible for my son driving the truck and how nice for him judge my son (he doesn't even know him). I said "remember a day when you were judged (he is a major alcoholic). Then I wrote merry f-ing christmas. Not nice but I was shaking I was so angry. I know, that was not nice.

Then he writes back "pay up ...not over till it's over, homeless Viet Nam Vet...scorched, bring it on ...my lawyers finished school ...your sons lost, so says SKPD, pay me or lose, I got 3,000 frndz ...bring it on, or pay the bill. It's only just begun ...I will **** with this until I'm paid ...I have cancer ...we could make 60 minutes, have connections in NYC ...pay up,"

I obviously did not respond! He is trying to extort money from me! Of course he isnt asking the kid who stole cuz he knows they have nothing. Oh but my husband owns a business so he can try to threaten me. I have no idea what to do. tell my son's lawyer? Go to the police? ITS CHRISTMAS!!! So much for my trying to be jolly and not let anyone ruin it. I'm still going to try but it sure is being tested! I am menopausal and pms-ing at the same time. Does he not know he is dealing with an insane woman right now??? Please pray for me tonight as I pray for all of you. I need it!

EternalQ

Wow Needing. Sounds like a very volatile situation. This man could very well be intoxicated as he writes, so it remains to be seen whether anything will come of this. It takes a lot of organization for him to actually pull himself together to do something as opposed to just writing stuff on facebook.

In my experience engaging with someone who is angry and irrational at this level is never productive. Perhaps it'd be wise to stay off FB for a day or so, till he calms down?
It will help you calm down too. It is a challenging situation but practicing detachment might be the wisest course for now?

suki44883

Stop having dialogue with him! Remove his ability to post on your Facebook page, but before you do, make a screen shot of his messages. They may be useful later.

Sorry you're going through this.

lizwig

I would report this immediately to the police and after they've seen the proof delete him from Facebook immediately. This has to be incredibly unnerving. Your son may or may not have known the bikes were stolen...but regardless this isn't your issue to fix. I would bet this guy is drunk but his threats should be taken seriously. So sorry you are dealing with this.

Ruby2

Sorry you are going through this. It is scary. Report him to the police and don't engage him on Facebook. Talk to your son's lawyer. Definitely make a screen shot of the posting but report it to the police first. Most states make it a crime to harass someone via electronic media. Depending in your states statutes this could fit. No way should you have to put up with this. And unfriend this person.

cynical one

I agree with the above posters, take screenshots, call police, as soon as they have what they need...unfriend. Then allow the legal system to handle it.

Upsetnneedhelp

I can relate. My son was driving his friends car when he had a bit of a mishap involving the police. The car was impounded and the man was demanding that I pay the $1000+ impound fee for eluding and weapons. I went to the police who not at all helpful and just viewed it as a dispute between gang members. I guess the addicts in our lives do not realize how much they effect us.

needingabreak

I did not respond to anything more. I removed his post immediately from my wall. He unfriended me so luckily no more correspondence that way. I was hoping he would threaten me all night long on message because he cannot erase it once it is sent. I printed everything out. I do not know how to take a screen shot so copied and pasted. I feel going to the police will incite him. I told my husband we should call my son's lawyer tomorrow and he said he and the police would laugh at it, that it is nothing but crazy talk from a drunk and they wont care.

I totally understand him being upset but why is he bothering and harassing ME? My son is 30 years old! I do not find this amusing at all. My husband thinks it is ridiculous rantings and nothing more. Maybe I am just being too emotional about it. Thank you as always for all the support. I keep asking myself when my life will ever be normal again.

Upsetnneedhelp

needing, you can try the police but just don't be surprised if they don't take it seriously. Society stills enables the stigma of alcoholism and drug addiction. The majority of Americans do not believe in the disease concept.

Chino

This is for Windows PC's:

Usually somewhere in the top row of your keyboard, around the backspace key, there's a key with "PrtScn" on it. That's Print Screen and it takes a screen shot of your monitor. After tapping it, go to the Paint program and paste it, save it.

needingabreak

Thank you Chino!! I never knew that!

Vale

What an incredibly pathetic attempt to intimidate. On a FACEBOOK page!
Let's take a wild gander and assume this pathetic F__K doesn't have the
savvy to wash said threat through a few offshore servers (I can pretty much
assure you the imbecile would not even know what I am talking about.)

......so let's see if I get this......make a felonious threat from an easily discoverable
ip address?.......(literally LOL-ing now!)

"I've got a better idea, MORON. Walk into a police station with a backpack full of child porn
and 5 kilos of raw Afghan heroin with a swastika tatt'ed on your forehead like Charlie Manson...
....because that is about the only way you could out-stupid what you just did by communicating
that terroristic/extortion threat across the internet!!"

There is pathetic, there is sub-pathetic, and there is just plain old too F-ing stupid
to believe. This 'threat' made to you falls into the last category.

Lastly, I love the part where 'imbecile' taunts you with "it's not over 'till it's over"

News flash, Chump. It IS over. You cannot even construct a grammatically proper threat.
When you attempt to, from an easily discoverable venue----you only show the world you
cannot write, coordinate, or even THINK.

I know you're upset, needingabreak-----and I don't mean to poke fun. But this honestly
gave me a belly laugh.......what a flaccid impotent worthless dreg----issuing
flaccid, impotent, worthless threats.

Tell him from one vet to another I recognize his (incoherent)writing style. I've got it
narrowed down to a clerk-typist from the 773d masturbation battalion, a busted cook
from the officers mess in Guam ('66) or a schlub who never made it out of basic training-
---and got sent home to his mommy. I'm 90% certain it's #3.

THAT is the 'calibre' of a scumbag who threatens ladies over the internet.

needingabreak

Oh Vale. How much do I love your humor? Thank you for this. It really was what I needed to wake up to. My husband says let it rest and see if he does anything else, he was just drunk. Last night he would have wished for nam had I got a hold of him but today I am definitely more peaceful. You never threaten a mama bear. No-siree Bob! I think it was cowardly, pathetic and cruel. Like I didn't feel bad enough. Like I haven't agonized over this already? It is Christmas! Not sure what we will do but again, thank you Vale for the much needed laugh and support!

needingabreak

I may call my son's lawyer. I really want to go to the police because I think on one hand how dare he threaten me and he being a man threatening a woman!? But at the same time I worry doing so will hurt my son's case somehow?

hopeful4

There is a local person in the town I live in that is in jail for threatening someone online. Five years in the federal pen. The police take those threats very seriously, so keep all the communication and report to the attorney and the police. YOU had no action in this and no responsibility for it.

That being said, do not engage and do not communicate any further with him at all. And let it go. Do not let it ruin your holidays or your life.

Good Luck and God Bless!

needingabreak

Thank you Hopeful and everyone for your support. You have no idea how much it means! I am going to the police after I get my work done. No communication will come from me! I am smart enough to not engage him at all.

totfit

I would copy everything you have and then just ignore him. What he is doing is extortion. It is a much larger crime than what your son did by "transporting" the bicycles. He is trying to steal $5000.00 from you through intimidation. If he continues to harass you go to the police or go now, but don't engage him.

needingabreak

I am definitely not engaging in any way, shape or for with him. Who knows what his mind is thinking!

Vale

You are correct in not engaging, and hopeful4 is right. He has committed
several federal felonies---extortion among them. The feds "sense of humor"
for such things is about the same as it is for bomb threats.....nonexistent.

(Always a need for clerk-typists and cooks in the federal pen, though!)

Jend719

Omg..I'm sure you are totally freaked out. I would be too. It reminds me of the drug dealer calling my house looking for the money from me for a bad check my RAD wrote him. Then he had his mommy call too.
I agree about printing the messages.
Vale...you are hysterical! You hit the nail on the head!