Wing

God... What to do? do I need psychological therapy?
I dream of him every single nite. How do I recover?
Am I going crazy!
help...

shinebright7

Sorry you're having dreams you don't want to be having, Wing.

I hate it when my sleep is disturbed, too.

Therapy might help you sort through some of the unresolved issues that are keeping him so active in your subconscious.

Are you doing any Al Anon meetings or other support groups too?

I'm sleepless tonight because of my health issues and my obsessive thinking kicked in and has kept me up. Ugh. No fun either.

I don't have answers for how to make those kinds of dreams stop, but I just wanted to write you and say hi and let you know you're not alone. And you definitely can recover. It's a process and we can all do it. I really believe that. <3

Wing

I'm so depressed and been staying in bed for a week. Found an Al Anon meeting at a church on Friday, planned to try... But.... I didn't realize its already Friday today... I missed it. I was so looking forward to it.
This is how crap my condition is now... Didn't even know what date it is...

shinebright7

Ugh. Frustrating. Really cool that you looked up a meeting though and now know where it is for next time.

I've been in bed all week too because of my health. Also has been hard to keep track of days so I totally feel for ya.

Maybe something from this Just For Today Al Anon reading will help you in the meantime. Maybe there are one of two of these things below that seems doable for you today and would make a positive difference for you. xo

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From an Al Anon website...

Just for today, I will try to live through this day only,
and not tackle my whole life problem
at once. I can do something for twelve hours
that would appall me if I felt that I had to
keep it up for a lifetime.

Just for today, I will be happy. This assumes to
be true what Abraham Lincoln said, that
"most folks are as happy as they make up
their minds to be."

Just for today, I will try to strengthen my mind.
I will study. I will learn something useful.
I will not be a mental loafer. I will read
something that requires effort, thought and
concentration.

Just for today, I will adjust myself to what is,
and not try to adjust everything to my own
desires. I will take my "luck" as it comes,
and fit myself to it.

Just for today, I will exercise my soul in three
ways: I will do somebody a good turn, and
not get found out. I will do at least two
things I don't want to--just for exercise.
I will not show anyone that my feelings are
hurt; they may be hurt, but today I will not
show it

Just for today, I will be agreeable. I will look
as well as I can, dress becomingly, talk low,
act courteously, criticize not one bit, not
find fault with anything and not try to improve
or regulate anybody except myself.

Just for today, I will have a program. I may not
follow it exactly, but I will have it. I will
save myself from two pests: hurry and indecision.

Just for today, I will have a quiet half hour all
by myself, and relax. During this half hour,
sometime, I will try to get a better perspective
of my life.

Just for today, I will be unafraid. Especially I
will not be afraid to enjoy what is beautiful,
and to believe that as I give to the world, so
the world will give to me.

-Kenneth L. Holmes

Wing

Thx so much for posting these for me... Just for today....
Dear, i feel like a zombie everyday now...

It's bad timing coz I just quit my job and thought to take some time off coz my previous job was too stressful by overseeing the regional market for an international listed company.... I worked too much and I was so tired of it... Then, exA flied off the handle. We had the last big fight ended physical an involved police...

Now I don't even wanna find a new job... I feel that I'm not ready... But question is, when will I be ready? I know that I need to step out but I dunno why I just feel so tired and all I want is to stay in bed... Am I ruining myself now for the addiction problem of someone else?

EverHopeful721

Thank you for this, shinebright. I'm going to print it out so I can refer back to it.