Rescuing Ourselves - Language of Letting Go
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Rescuing Ourselves - Language of Letting Go
Rescuing Ourselves
No one likes a martyr.
How do we feel around martyrs? Guilty, angry, trapped, negative, and anxious to get away.
Somehow, many of us have developed the belief that depriving ourselves, not taking care of ourselves, being a victim, and suffering needlessly will get us what we want.
It is our job to notice our abilities, our strengths, and take care of ourselves by developing and acting on them.
It is our job to notice our pain and weariness and appropriately take care of ourselves.
It is our job to notice our deprivation, too, and begin to take steps to give ourselves abundance. It begins inside of us, by changing what we believe we deserve, by giving up our deprivation and treating ourselves the way we deserve to be treated.
Life is hard, but we don't have to make it more difficult by neglecting ourselves. There is no glory in suffering, only suffering. Our pain will not stop when a rescuer comes, but when we take responsibility for ourselves and stop our own pain.
Today, I will be my own rescuer. I will stop waiting for someone else to work through my issues and solve my problems for me.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
No one likes a martyr.
How do we feel around martyrs? Guilty, angry, trapped, negative, and anxious to get away.
Somehow, many of us have developed the belief that depriving ourselves, not taking care of ourselves, being a victim, and suffering needlessly will get us what we want.
It is our job to notice our abilities, our strengths, and take care of ourselves by developing and acting on them.
It is our job to notice our pain and weariness and appropriately take care of ourselves.
It is our job to notice our deprivation, too, and begin to take steps to give ourselves abundance. It begins inside of us, by changing what we believe we deserve, by giving up our deprivation and treating ourselves the way we deserve to be treated.
Life is hard, but we don't have to make it more difficult by neglecting ourselves. There is no glory in suffering, only suffering. Our pain will not stop when a rescuer comes, but when we take responsibility for ourselves and stop our own pain.
Today, I will be my own rescuer. I will stop waiting for someone else to work through my issues and solve my problems for me.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
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I was surprised to find how very sick I had made myself when my recovery was just beginning. I am a person who always took care of the outer stuff, bathed daily, dressed nicely in clean clothes, styled hair and good makeup...but inside I had neglected myself to the point of becoming very very sick...and there was no one waiting on the sidelines to rescue ME.
It wasn't until I was almost well again that I could look back and see how very sick I had become. It frightened me. I had spent all my time taking care of an aging mother, looking after my husband's business and driving myself crazy over my addicted son. There was simply no time or energy at the end of the day for "me".
Today I take care of myself first, because if I don't, I cannot be useful to anyone else. I watch for signs of stress, of fatigue and I make corrections before those symptoms become physical.
It feels good today to take care of myself, I live better and feel better than I did 15 years ago and will never again allow neglect to make me sick.
Hugs
It wasn't until I was almost well again that I could look back and see how very sick I had become. It frightened me. I had spent all my time taking care of an aging mother, looking after my husband's business and driving myself crazy over my addicted son. There was simply no time or energy at the end of the day for "me".
Today I take care of myself first, because if I don't, I cannot be useful to anyone else. I watch for signs of stress, of fatigue and I make corrections before those symptoms become physical.
It feels good today to take care of myself, I live better and feel better than I did 15 years ago and will never again allow neglect to make me sick.
Hugs
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