How do I have proof he went to drug rehab?
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How do I have proof he went to drug rehab?
I want to believe and support him through his recovery. I still have my doubts that he even went to rehab. I don't see him that often. The odd thing he still asks for money when I see him saying it for something like for his kids or whatever.
I don't know this guy that well anymore. We used to be pretty tight seeing each other often. I knew he had a drug problem then.
We do have a few mutual friends but don't know them well enough to talk to them about it. I don't want it to get back to him thinking I had doubts about him going to rehab .
I don't know this guy that well anymore. We used to be pretty tight seeing each other often. I knew he had a drug problem then.
We do have a few mutual friends but don't know them well enough to talk to them about it. I don't want it to get back to him thinking I had doubts about him going to rehab .
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Katie
My heart goes out to you, really it does, but reading what you said I have to ask...what's in this relationship for "you"?
You have doubts about whether he is telling the truth (and these are probably well founded doubts, always trust your instinct), and he asks you for money and you don't know him or his friends very well.
Perhaps now might be a good time to take a giant step back and some "alone" time, to work on your own issues and figure out why you are attracted to someone so untrustworthy.
Whether he went to rehab or not isn't the issue here. It's about your own uneasiness with this whole relationship.
Take time for you, Katie, to regain your balance and feel confident about what you want in a healthy relationship. If it isn't already there, in this one, don't plan on changing it any time soon...people don't change to suit our requirements.
You deserve better.
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My heart goes out to you, really it does, but reading what you said I have to ask...what's in this relationship for "you"?
You have doubts about whether he is telling the truth (and these are probably well founded doubts, always trust your instinct), and he asks you for money and you don't know him or his friends very well.
Perhaps now might be a good time to take a giant step back and some "alone" time, to work on your own issues and figure out why you are attracted to someone so untrustworthy.
Whether he went to rehab or not isn't the issue here. It's about your own uneasiness with this whole relationship.
Take time for you, Katie, to regain your balance and feel confident about what you want in a healthy relationship. If it isn't already there, in this one, don't plan on changing it any time soon...people don't change to suit our requirements.
You deserve better.
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Katie
I don't know that I have anything more to add to Ann's comments. I think she said it very well.
Sometimes......the best thing we can do for others is show them how to live life through our own rather than trying to help them live theirs. Unfortunately, we can't truly help someone who is unwilling to help themselves.
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I don't know that I have anything more to add to Ann's comments. I think she said it very well.
Sometimes......the best thing we can do for others is show them how to live life through our own rather than trying to help them live theirs. Unfortunately, we can't truly help someone who is unwilling to help themselves.
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I find it disturbing that a grown man is asking a woman for money for his kids, or for any reason at all.
If you don't know him that well anymore, why have contact with him?
If he did indeed go to rehab, he was given the tools for recovery, and there are plenty of folks already in the rooms of 12-step programs who can give him the kind of support that he needs.
If you don't know him that well anymore, why have contact with him?
If he did indeed go to rehab, he was given the tools for recovery, and there are plenty of folks already in the rooms of 12-step programs who can give him the kind of support that he needs.
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