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aka Miss Scarlett O'Hara
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Honey, you are the only one who was open in that talk. He was hustling.
aka Miss Scarlett O'Hara
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It sounds like his addiction and all that goes along, with that, is the focal point of your life, right now.
Is this acceptable to you?
Is this acceptable to you?
aka Miss Scarlett O'Hara
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It is a real shame that you aren't wanting to make plans for your birthday because of abf's drug usage. I've been where you are. I know what it is like to be afraid to make plans because you don't know where your abf will be in his drug usage. My advice is to make your own plans with your friends. You can still tell your abf what you want to do for your birthday. You need to make your needs heard. It is so easy to get to where you are no longer asking for what you need. However, your birthday should be special, so make some special plans. What would you like to do? Do you have friends that you could get together with for dinner or something else?
aka Miss Scarlett O'Hara
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Ya know, last night, he came home at dinner and had a rageing headache, so bad that he had to have the house 'quiet' and couldn't eat.
Then I went to work, and worked till 3 in the a.m. This morning, he was up, running around, waking me UP...... then got pissed because i was being a biatch---
Then I went to work, and worked till 3 in the a.m. This morning, he was up, running around, waking me UP...... then got pissed because i was being a biatch---
It's nice to hear similar stories. Makes me feel not quite so crazy!
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Today I am so THANKFUL for that relapse. Because right before he relapsed he was saying he could CONTROL the pills. He said that he was at a point where he knew he had a problem with the pills and because he knew that he could do better this time around.
Does that makes sense? HELL NO. But what can you do. He really had to prove to himself that he didnt have control. He needed to learn that for himself. So in the process of trying to control it he did many different things to "control" using the pills.
Does that makes sense? HELL NO. But what can you do. He really had to prove to himself that he didnt have control. He needed to learn that for himself. So in the process of trying to control it he did many different things to "control" using the pills.
What was your abf's relapse like? Because my abf, I would say, is relapsed and not admitting anything. He has health problems that he will not admit are caused from drug abuse. I just don't know what will make him see it. I hate to think he's going to have to hit bottom, but I don't know what else will do it.
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