riaerif

I finally started a 12-step program and am finding that it's not hopeless. I came here last because my mom reoffended big time. Now she is facing a felony conviction. That's a definite. There's no way around it.

But she's a nurse and that's a problem. I've been researching and have discovered that things are not hopeless for her either and I didn't do the work, but I told her what I'd found and told her to fight for her future instead of rolling over and taking what's dished out.

Now I'm stepping back. The rest is up to her.

Despite the outcome of what happens to her, I've realized that life is not over and I can have a wonderful life whether she's miserable or not. That is not my problem and her sobriety or handling of her problems are not my responsibility.

I refuse to hold her hand through the process. I pointed out a path to help and her journey belongs to her and her alone. As does mine.

I hope I'm doing the right thing. I know I am for me so I guess that's all that really matters.

frankly

((riaerif))

Wow, you sound like you have a real good handle on "your side of the street" Keep doing what you are doing, concentrate on yourself.

Hugs and Prayers
B

Troubledone

riaerif

It sounds to me like you are doing the right thing. I only wish I had been as wise and centered as you sound when my niece got into the same type of trouble. (my niece has two felonies and viloated probation and is back in jail now)

You are so right that she needs to handle this on her own and your post is inspiring to me. I am realizing that holding my niece's hand just made the situation seem less important than it was. She minimized her crimes and went right back at it.

And life can be great when we detach... I'm finding that out myself.

Prayers...

I pray that you stay in the wonderful place you are now - and I hope I can join you in detaching from my addict more and more.

riaerif

Thank you both for the encouraging words.

Troubledone, I haven't seen anything yet. Did things go well at the hearing?