I couldn't stand another minute, so I left
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I couldn't stand another minute, so I left
Long day. Hope everyone's holiday was peaceful and enjoyable.
Mine started about 11:30 am. Hubby and I had to go to my in-laws early,
because my husband had to be at work by 3:00 and we didn't want to eat
and run. Mil made a very nice spread. Boneless turkey breast, gravy, stuffing,
pink stuff, lol. You get the picture. The usual meal. It was quiet, peaceful, and
she even brought out all of her "old" xmas ornaments for myself and 2 sil's to
divvy up amongst ourselves. She "redoes" her tree every few years.
These ornaments were from when her sons were young. Our husbands.
So it was alot of fun and many laughs. I almost took one my sils outside to whoop
her a$$ over a santa ringing a bell. Looked like it was from the 60's.
Anyway, headed toward my brother's house around 2:45, while hubby went to work.
My son with his elderly (lol) gf arrived at the same time. He hugged me and
took the ham to carry. We were first to arrive. My brother, his wife, (the cook)
and their 2 children were there. Niece had her bf there, too.
Anyway, I don't want to drag this out too much, but after everyone arrived and we began eating, I noticed that my brother was being his usual self. Arrogant, bossy,
and not hearing anyone else speak but himself. Then I noticed my son was behaving the same way. Now I can see my son acting up. He doesn't get out much, he's on medication for bi-polar symptoms, he still smokes pot, so I just chalk it up to nerves on how to "act" around a crowd.
My brother on the other hand, was just being a pr*ck.
I think back and I realize, he's always been this way and I just usually ignored it
and stay later than anyone else. To help clean up, watch a movie, gossip, ect.
Tonight, and maybe because I'm getting older and don't really give 2 sh*ts anymore,
I just said, "gotta go".
Gotta work in the morning, tired, and need to talk to my daughter before it gets too late, ect. Excuses, but I got outta there. Age or recovery?
You call it. lol
Love to all,
I'm stuffed...
Mine started about 11:30 am. Hubby and I had to go to my in-laws early,
because my husband had to be at work by 3:00 and we didn't want to eat
and run. Mil made a very nice spread. Boneless turkey breast, gravy, stuffing,
pink stuff, lol. You get the picture. The usual meal. It was quiet, peaceful, and
she even brought out all of her "old" xmas ornaments for myself and 2 sil's to
divvy up amongst ourselves. She "redoes" her tree every few years.
These ornaments were from when her sons were young. Our husbands.
So it was alot of fun and many laughs. I almost took one my sils outside to whoop
her a$$ over a santa ringing a bell. Looked like it was from the 60's.
Anyway, headed toward my brother's house around 2:45, while hubby went to work.
My son with his elderly (lol) gf arrived at the same time. He hugged me and
took the ham to carry. We were first to arrive. My brother, his wife, (the cook)
and their 2 children were there. Niece had her bf there, too.
Anyway, I don't want to drag this out too much, but after everyone arrived and we began eating, I noticed that my brother was being his usual self. Arrogant, bossy,
and not hearing anyone else speak but himself. Then I noticed my son was behaving the same way. Now I can see my son acting up. He doesn't get out much, he's on medication for bi-polar symptoms, he still smokes pot, so I just chalk it up to nerves on how to "act" around a crowd.
My brother on the other hand, was just being a pr*ck.
I think back and I realize, he's always been this way and I just usually ignored it
and stay later than anyone else. To help clean up, watch a movie, gossip, ect.
Tonight, and maybe because I'm getting older and don't really give 2 sh*ts anymore,
I just said, "gotta go".
Gotta work in the morning, tired, and need to talk to my daughter before it gets too late, ect. Excuses, but I got outta there. Age or recovery?
You call it. lol
Love to all,
I'm stuffed...
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Sounds like good recovery to me.
I'm finding that I'm a lot less tolerant of people who annoy me. There are some I HAVE to put up with (customers in my restaurant), but when I don't have to, I do the same thing - "gotta go".
Glad the first part of your day went well, and even though the 2nd half wasn't so great - you took care of YOU and got out.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy
I'm finding that I'm a lot less tolerant of people who annoy me. There are some I HAVE to put up with (customers in my restaurant), but when I don't have to, I do the same thing - "gotta go".
Glad the first part of your day went well, and even though the 2nd half wasn't so great - you took care of YOU and got out.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy
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Sounds like it was not too bad a day. And you got new Christmas ornaments. Can't beat that. One thing that I said to my daughter today that I have found myself thinking about a lot lately is that I know she is an addict and if I don't want addict behavior then I can choose to not be around her. I think that is the same with any person that raises our hackles. We can choose to not be around it or to shorten the time we are exposed to it and it sounds like you did just that. Hugs, Marle
p.s. I love the reference to son's gf as the elderly gf. Maybe we should hook your son and my daughter up and their respective significant others can hook up. That way everyone is age apropriate
p.s. I love the reference to son's gf as the elderly gf. Maybe we should hook your son and my daughter up and their respective significant others can hook up. That way everyone is age apropriate
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Wow Linda, I just read your reply on another thread and we are thinking a lot alike about the topic of what we are willing to put up with. Do you think that maybe we have some recovery under our belts.:mock Hugs, Marle
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Don't let the 'turkey' get ya down,Linda. Sorry, couldn't resist.
I honestly don't know if its age or recovery or a strange combination of both...but I also find myself with alot less tolerance, too. Life is too dang short.
Love yas!!
Gobble Gobble...
I honestly don't know if its age or recovery or a strange combination of both...but I also find myself with alot less tolerance, too. Life is too dang short.
Love yas!!
Gobble Gobble...
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Yup...Choices...Funny how I always had choices but somehow never realized it. The more we are exposed to recovery and taking care of ourselves, the more we make healthy, positive choices for ourselves...That's my thought anyway
I chose to hang out on the floor playing with the 3 and 6 year old today rather than sit with the big people...It was fun! My favorite part was when the little 3 year old took her fairy play figure and put her in the "fairy time out chair."
I chose to hang out on the floor playing with the 3 and 6 year old today rather than sit with the big people...It was fun! My favorite part was when the little 3 year old took her fairy play figure and put her in the "fairy time out chair."
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it is called taking care of ourself ,something we never did before. you are doing good & i am so much better at not doing things i do not want to. call it recovery or age we are doing so much better..
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Linda,
You did great, no scenes, no fights etc. YOU TOOK CARE OF YOU!!!!!!! I think it is your recovery, now we know what we will or will not put up with, you put up with it until dinner was done, and left. If you had work today it was not a lie, so don't worry about it. You can choose your friends but can't choose family.
Hugs to you
You did great, no scenes, no fights etc. YOU TOOK CARE OF YOU!!!!!!! I think it is your recovery, now we know what we will or will not put up with, you put up with it until dinner was done, and left. If you had work today it was not a lie, so don't worry about it. You can choose your friends but can't choose family.
Hugs to you
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I believe as we progress in recovery, we come to know ourselves in a new, healthier, more positive way. Good for you Linda for knowing your priorities and level of comfort matter. Gotta go's a good a reason as any for moving on and away from "gunk" we don't have to stick around for...great taking care of you choice!
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I lasted with my fam damily for 2 hours. My sister decided not to jump in my stuff and instead she jumped in my brothers stuff. I was the one who got to stand in the side lines and edge it on. geeeeeeeeeeeeeeeze I ate and ran as fast as I could...
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(((((Splendra)))))
You've come to haunt me. I've missed you, as well.
Where have all the flowers gone?
Good to hear you were able to eat well while watching the "show", but I
couldn't stomach the B rating that was going on at my bro's.
He's always been such an in-your-face kinda bully and I never really paid it any mind.
I would just laugh and shake my head. This last visit, though, left me feeling....
aaaarrrrrrggggggg! I can't take his mouth anymore. Just spewing at anyone that would listen.
Anyway, enough. I'm goin' to bed.
Gotta work tomorrow. Retail s*cks this time o' year. lol
If I weren't so good at it, I'd quit. :mock
Love ya,
You've come to haunt me. I've missed you, as well.
Where have all the flowers gone?
Good to hear you were able to eat well while watching the "show", but I
couldn't stomach the B rating that was going on at my bro's.
He's always been such an in-your-face kinda bully and I never really paid it any mind.
I would just laugh and shake my head. This last visit, though, left me feeling....
aaaarrrrrrggggggg! I can't take his mouth anymore. Just spewing at anyone that would listen.
Anyway, enough. I'm goin' to bed.
Gotta work tomorrow. Retail s*cks this time o' year. lol
If I weren't so good at it, I'd quit. :mock
Love ya,
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Hey I did not eat well I hate thanks giving dinner it was more of an obligatory nibble. I only showed up because my nephew demanded I show up. The only reason my sister did not try to pull a stunt with me is because her son would have been very mad at her.
I have missed you too((((((bookmiser))))))))
I have missed you too((((((bookmiser))))))))
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Hey I did not eat well I hate thanks giving dinner it was more of an obligatory nibble. I only showed up because my nephew demanded I show up. The only reason my sister did not try to pull a stunt with me is because her son would have been very mad at her.
I have missed you too((((((bookmiser))))))))
I have missed you too((((((bookmiser))))))))
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