escape artist

i got it! from reading another post. as my AH is still stringing us along acting like he is going through the motions of getting his own place, sometimes it definitely feels like we are all walking on eggshells. it makes me mad and sad as i know the little girls are internalizing all this crap of "dad leaving". i had to say it out loud in front of him to one of my daughters "i know it is very difficult when your mom and dad are not getting along very well"...
the dinner table transactions are awkward to say the least.
but the lightbulb is that he is still trying to control this and think he is going to manipulate me with his stupid game. well to heck with that. i am going to maintain DETACHMENT and teach my girls to keep on keepin' on, as life will continue with or without him!! thanks y'all!

FormerDoormat

My xAB did the same thing. I asked him to leave repeatedly and he would circle ads in the paper and make a few phone calls but he wouldn't leave. After months of this, I finally sent him a certified letter telling him he had 30 days to leave my home (I am the sole owner) or I would have him forcibly removed. That did the trick.

If you try this route and you get to the 30-day mark, all you need to do is call the Sheriff/police, tell them about the certified letter, and present it to them when they arrive. They will stay in your home while he collects a few things and then escort him out. If you fear he may become violent in response, the next day go down to your local courthouse and file a restraining order.

I understand your frustration. Your'e doing a good job of detaching from an unpleasant situation. Stay strong and stand your ground. Serenity is right around the corner.

HockeyMom

Does anyone know if this certified letter (mentioned in above reply) is an option in Canada? I've had enough of my AH's shannanagans. I have been preparing myself emotionally for a couple of months and feel I am ready to call this quits.

We're married. The house is in his name, but he lost his job 2 wks ago. I figure if I have the kids and can make the payments, I should be able to stay in the house.

But how do I get him to leave? I have no money to pay a lawyer for advice.