How do I cope
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How do I cope
My 37yr old son is dying from cirrhosis caused by alcohol and drug abuse. His gastro doctor has given him 3-6 months and he now has a mass on his liver. He is still drinking! How do I cope watching him do this! My heart is broken.
I have no idea - no words of wisdom but I'm sorry you are sad.
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I am so sorry. It's so difficult.
I can not relate as a mother. But my ex fiance has cirrhosis, and if he drinks again he will die.
If he stays clean he will still need a transplant.
It's all horrible.
I saw the strain it put on his own mother. And how much she worries. It's heart breaking.
I am sorry all I can offer is my weak words. I wish I had wisdom for you, but I am glad you are here. You will find support. And wisdoms from others.
I can not relate as a mother. But my ex fiance has cirrhosis, and if he drinks again he will die.
If he stays clean he will still need a transplant.
It's all horrible.
I saw the strain it put on his own mother. And how much she worries. It's heart breaking.
I am sorry all I can offer is my weak words. I wish I had wisdom for you, but I am glad you are here. You will find support. And wisdoms from others.
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Join Date: Jul 2021
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I am so sorry. I'm not certain what to suggest other than prayer.
This is why I left my XABF, I'd already watched my AH pass away, I couldn't do it again; my son is coming home next week from a treatment center and I'm praying it will be different now. I understand your situation is different, that this is your son. It is heartbreaking.
If you are able to maintain your personal boundaries while spending time with him, perhaps do so. If not, love and pray from a distance. I'm so sorry.
This is why I left my XABF, I'd already watched my AH pass away, I couldn't do it again; my son is coming home next week from a treatment center and I'm praying it will be different now. I understand your situation is different, that this is your son. It is heartbreaking.
If you are able to maintain your personal boundaries while spending time with him, perhaps do so. If not, love and pray from a distance. I'm so sorry.
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I am so sorry. I cannot imagine how devastating that diagnosis is for you. As for coping, I imagine the only thing you can do is love him for as long as you have and know that you did nothing to cause the situation. I am so sorry.
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I have no idea either. It's a brutal situation. All I can think of is to lean on your support network through this. I know there's a lot of care and support to be found on here too. We're happy to share stories, or just listen if you need a place to vent.
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Originally Posted by Dezran 
Thank you all for the kind words and thoughts. I have started attending Al-Anon.
Taking care of yourself is so important. It's a sad and traumatic time for you so that's of utmost importance. I know it may not seem appropriate or worth doing right now but I hope you can believe that it is.
As much as possible, eat well, sleep when you can, go out and visit friends and family, even if it's only brief visits. Do you like to walk or play any sport of any kind? Even walking around your neighbourhood for a short time each day can lift your spirits.
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