The Mystery of the Missing Mouthwash
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The Mystery of the Missing Mouthwash
OK....so AH has been white knuckling sobriety for a little over a month now.
A week ago, our son had oral surgery. He was given a prescription for antiseptic mouthwash that was heavily alcohol based (I am MRSA positive so it is important to protect the family especially after surgery)
Yesterday, my son went to use said mouthwash and it is gone. All of it. Yes, including the bottle.
No one knows where it went. Apparently, "Not Me" was at it again and stole the mouthwash for his own use. I didn't see anyone take it. I cannot say for sure that anyone drank it. I don't know if it just got moved to some mysterious "safe" place and I am trying really hard to not blame AH for the disappearance but he did get up and "watch tv" for awhile last night and then came to bed passed out snoring around 3, woke up late, took a "french shower" and was acting rather guilty all morning.....
Maybe I am just projecting my failed expectations on the poor man. Maybe not. Either way....the mouthwash is still missing.
It is awful to think that even if he didn't do it, I am so conditioned to expecting his failure that I just assume he did and move on. Ugh.
Going to find a meeting to pop in on today. I think I need to hand this one over.
A week ago, our son had oral surgery. He was given a prescription for antiseptic mouthwash that was heavily alcohol based (I am MRSA positive so it is important to protect the family especially after surgery)
Yesterday, my son went to use said mouthwash and it is gone. All of it. Yes, including the bottle.
No one knows where it went. Apparently, "Not Me" was at it again and stole the mouthwash for his own use. I didn't see anyone take it. I cannot say for sure that anyone drank it. I don't know if it just got moved to some mysterious "safe" place and I am trying really hard to not blame AH for the disappearance but he did get up and "watch tv" for awhile last night and then came to bed passed out snoring around 3, woke up late, took a "french shower" and was acting rather guilty all morning.....
Maybe I am just projecting my failed expectations on the poor man. Maybe not. Either way....the mouthwash is still missing.
It is awful to think that even if he didn't do it, I am so conditioned to expecting his failure that I just assume he did and move on. Ugh.
Going to find a meeting to pop in on today. I think I need to hand this one over.
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Oddsunflower,
"Not Me" lives at your house also. He seems gets around. I don't know how many times I have heard that name. I just wish he wold come clean and maybe do the dishes when i ask whose turn it is to do them. I hope it's just misplaced mouth wash and not AH drinking it. Prayers for you. Keep strong.
"Not Me" lives at your house also. He seems gets around. I don't know how many times I have heard that name. I just wish he wold come clean and maybe do the dishes when i ask whose turn it is to do them. I hope it's just misplaced mouth wash and not AH drinking it. Prayers for you. Keep strong.
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I always wished that Not Me would pull their weight around here since it seems like they eat a lot, make a lot of messes and just cause chaos.
I do hope that it has just been misplaced and AH didn't drink it.
I am working through a part of my own recovery where I ask a question and then just accept the answer I am given as their truth (not THE truth just their truth). There is no reason to badger someone who wants to lie...it only makes ME feel bad in the end. I have chosen to let this one go without an interrogation but I am going to need a little more help from myself to let this one to to the HP.
I will give one last look for the mouthwash and then HP going get a talk from me.
I do hope that it has just been misplaced and AH didn't drink it.
I am working through a part of my own recovery where I ask a question and then just accept the answer I am given as their truth (not THE truth just their truth). There is no reason to badger someone who wants to lie...it only makes ME feel bad in the end. I have chosen to let this one go without an interrogation but I am going to need a little more help from myself to let this one to to the HP.
I will give one last look for the mouthwash and then HP going get a talk from me.
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I never once had a gut suspicion around my alcoholic and was wrong. Even when I certainly thought I was going nuts, he always was the culprit. I'm sorry for your discovery and while of course I hope it just got misplaced, I have strong doubts. My X used to get into every single thing when he stayed with me, from mouthwash to perfumes to hairsprays to vapor oil we put into the humidifier to any kind of cooking extract I kept in the cabinet. It's too bad if he took something your son needed to heal from a surgery. I learned however that they just could not be trusted. I suffered from severe bronchitis once and recall looking for my medicine only to find the bottle of syrup completely empty.
You'll find out eventually, but odds are that your gut is right. I'm sorry for what you are going through.
You'll find out eventually, but odds are that your gut is right. I'm sorry for what you are going through.
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Originally Posted by Smarie78 
I never once had a gut suspicion around my alcoholic and was wrong. Even when I certainly thought I was going nuts, he always was the culprit. I'm sorry for your discovery and while of course I hope it just got misplaced, I have strong doubts. My X used to get into every single thing when he stayed with me, from mouthwash to perfumes to hairsprays to vapor oil we put into the humidifier to any kind of cooking extract I kept in the cabinet. It's too bad if he took something your son needed to heal from a surgery. I learned however that they just could not be trusted. I suffered from severe bronchitis once and recall looking for my medicine only to find the bottle of syrup completely empty.
You'll find out eventually, but odds are that your gut is right. I'm sorry for what you are going through.
You'll find out eventually, but odds are that your gut is right. I'm sorry for what you are going through.
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and I am trying really hard to not blame AH for the disappearance
why? mouthwash does not just disappear. i've misplaced keys, phones, pack of cigarettes, but i've never LOST a bottle of mouthwash. or toothpaste, toothbrushes or Qtips.
so - if you trust your gut, what then?
why? mouthwash does not just disappear. i've misplaced keys, phones, pack of cigarettes, but i've never LOST a bottle of mouthwash. or toothpaste, toothbrushes or Qtips.
so - if you trust your gut, what then?
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My XAH drank a whole bottle of Tylenol w/Codine after my 5 yr old had surgery. He also stole my pain pills after I had surgery.
Your post does not surprise me in the least. Glad you are going to a meeting.
Your post does not surprise me in the least. Glad you are going to a meeting.
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I wouldn't battle your instincts too hard OSF. It seems pretty obvious what happened.
You can really tie yourself in knots with alternative stories, but is it worth the effort? It does seem strange that he didn't just sneak out and get a bottle of vodka though.
You can really tie yourself in knots with alternative stories, but is it worth the effort? It does seem strange that he didn't just sneak out and get a bottle of vodka though.
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