How to go about changing access to the kids?
WLL, I think no matter what happens going forward, you have gained a whole new set of tools, and a whole new strength with which to wield them. I know things aren't easy right now, but I feel confident there are brighter days in store for you.
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WL, you’re a good guy in a terribly tough situation. My sincere hope for you is that you find your way to a more peaceful, positive life surrounded by people who appreciate you.
I had one more thought...maybe do some reading about children who grow up in alcoholic homes? Your daughter’s “stoicism” makes me sad...she’s a kid. She shouldn’t be editing her emotions just to try to make things better for her parents.
Here are some things many of us experience growing up that way:
Attachment disorders: I tend to avoid or sabotage relationships, even friendships...too risky.
Overdeveloped sense of responsibility for others’ emotions: my father’s mood swings and black silent rages were awful and as a child, I assumed they were my fault.
Anxiety: I find it extremely difficult to relax, unless I am alone.
I could go on and on, but my point is that if you really understand what your wife’s addiction may be setting your daughter up for, it may help your resolve. Therapy helps; having one parent who she can always count on is crucial.
Sending you both a hug.
I had one more thought...maybe do some reading about children who grow up in alcoholic homes? Your daughter’s “stoicism” makes me sad...she’s a kid. She shouldn’t be editing her emotions just to try to make things better for her parents.
Here are some things many of us experience growing up that way:
Attachment disorders: I tend to avoid or sabotage relationships, even friendships...too risky.
Overdeveloped sense of responsibility for others’ emotions: my father’s mood swings and black silent rages were awful and as a child, I assumed they were my fault.
Anxiety: I find it extremely difficult to relax, unless I am alone.
I could go on and on, but my point is that if you really understand what your wife’s addiction may be setting your daughter up for, it may help your resolve. Therapy helps; having one parent who she can always count on is crucial.
Sending you both a hug.
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