I am really struggling today...
alwayscovering…..I am, actually, in favor of "benign bribery" of teens, in certain situations....(wink)…..
For example, you m ight "bribe" him into going along to alateen, as you attend alanon….you could make it an evening out for the two of you....perhaps, going out for pizza or ice cream, after...and/or taking in a movie of his choice, together....or even getting him a new piece of electronics, or a new bike or a special day trip of his choice, after a period of time.....
For example, you m ight "bribe" him into going along to alateen, as you attend alanon….you could make it an evening out for the two of you....perhaps, going out for pizza or ice cream, after...and/or taking in a movie of his choice, together....or even getting him a new piece of electronics, or a new bike or a special day trip of his choice, after a period of time.....
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I do think that letting your stepson "stay" at your place when he needs to is a good idea....He is likely to drift away from both of his bio parents, anyway as he gets older...especially, if they are as toxic as you describe...
You might be the most stable and trustworthy adult in his life.....
You might be the most stable and trustworthy adult in his life.....
As for bribery, I used to. I no longer manipulate. I simply say straight up when kid has a choice and I listen and let his gut instinct have the say in it. Then if I really have a guiding force moment of him needing to be somewhere like alateen or a yoga class, I simply put my foot down. We do fun things on the way and afterwards, they just aren't a bribery. They're a part of life.
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