Friend has the shakes, does it mean relapse?
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Friend has the shakes, does it mean relapse?
He has been into rehab and the shakes stopped for a couple of weeks after he came out. I noticed they’re back a couple of days ago. Is he drinking again? Or is his body just so battered by years of drinking?
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Originally Posted by Kinko 
He has been into rehab and the shakes stopped for a couple of weeks after he came out. I noticed they’re back a couple of days ago. Is he drinking again? Or is his body just so battered by years of drinking?
You may be jumping to conclusions or you may be right on track.
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HI Kinko - many of us shook for a few weeks or even months after quitting. It can come and go, be worse in the morning etc...permanent shaking like Forwards suggested is rare.
Shaking by itself tho is not necessarily an indication of drinking.
D
Shaking by itself tho is not necessarily an indication of drinking.
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From the Al-Anon website:
"Al-Anon members are people, just like you, who are worried about someone with a drinking problem."
https://al-anon.org/
There are meetings in many cities and towns. There's a listing for US and worldwide on the web site.
Try a few meetings and then a few more... look for things that connect with you. Alcoholism wants us to feel separate and isolated. Alanon brings healing.
"Al-Anon members are people, just like you, who are worried about someone with a drinking problem."
https://al-anon.org/
There are meetings in many cities and towns. There's a listing for US and worldwide on the web site.
Try a few meetings and then a few more... look for things that connect with you. Alcoholism wants us to feel separate and isolated. Alanon brings healing.
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He eventually lost his job. The only thing he had left. He’d already lost his wife and children. And he still doesn’t think he has a problem. A couple of seizures later, he’s convinced he’s got epilepsy even though the drs say he doesn’t. I’ve never seen denial like this before. I can’t watch him kill himself. It’s like the only rock bottom for him is death! He’s got nothing else to lose. At what point does an addict realise they have a problem???
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Originally Posted by Kinko
At what point does an addict realise they have a problem???
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I haven’t dealt with my loved one relapsing yet but I imagine it is pretty horrible for everyone. I am finding it is important to remember that it is not your rock bottom, it’s theirs. You may be a witness to or even an unfortunate casualty of it but only one person own her/his way of getting through the difficult times. I find this attitude leads to greater honesty which leads to greater compassion.
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I have had the shakes for the entire weekend from using tree snippers on Friday. It's happened before, they will go away soon.
Point being, you never know, but future behavior will tell if there is relapse or not.
I have had the shakes for the entire weekend from using tree snippers on Friday. It's happened before, they will go away soon.
Point being, you never know, but future behavior will tell if there is relapse or not.
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