theuncertainty

When, DS was little, he really liked the book The Brown Bottle by Penny Jones. It's a very gentle way to introduce the concept of addiction to little ones. It helped me understand it a little bit better, too.

hopeful4

I am sorry for what you are going through.

I would think you can file a report in both cities. It may be that he linked up with someone from the rehab facility. I would say he will surface when it's time for the next check to be deposited.

Hugs to you. Take good care of you and yours.

theuncertainty

Unfortunately, no, there's no way to avoid it that I've found. That's part of the reason I really want to be as honest as I can with DS in an age-appropriate way: I know that as long as AXH is stuck in his addictions and bad/selfish behavior, he's going to lie to DS again and again. I know DS is going to be hurt emotionally by his father, and I can't change what AXH does, but I can show DS that I'm here for him, that I love him, that I'm truthful and can be trusted. The last thing I want would be to be caught out in a lie by DS - even if one intended to save him from heartache - and have him feel like I was just as much a liar and as untrustworthy as his father is.

((((hugs))))