Liveitwell

This hit the nail on the head for me. Almost every one was like a "um yeah-that was my husband at the end" moment. Thought some of y'all would identify and relate to this as well.

How Abusive Men Parent

Praying

Oh wow...thanks for posting...

LiveInPeace

Sounds a lot like how my mother parented.

Still struggling with letting go of the anger that eats me up inside.

Still struggling with self-validation that it was not my fault.

wanttobehealthy

The putting on a show when there is an audience part and undermining mom is my xAH to a T... My older daughter treats me quite badly after time with her dad-- it takes a few days for her to come down off the insults he fills their heads with....

Ultimately it's abusive toward the kids for abusive men to parent in this way-- it's so sad...

Liveitwell

Oh yes ^ my ex does/did it on phone calls all the time. Naturally-it's who he is. And then the drunk. Phone calls. It just never ends. My ex can put on a great show too-look at me the poor victim of life....so over it.

wanttobehealthy

Ive taken to just being "busy" and making the nightly harassment on the phone NOT an option for him... The kids did not want to be on the phone nightly with him and would end up in tears or a fight with one another afterward so I have interfered. Maybe not the best choice but its the one I made bc I am looking out for the kids since he is not willing to act sane.

Liveitwell

I've hung up on three calls-bc he was drunk and slurring, stating horrible things about me to my daughter and the third time he screamed at me. There were many other times that were like this but I didn't have the strength to hang up; I can't count how many drunk phone calls there have been. Truly disgusting. My daughter, however, did and does and wants nothing to do with her dad. Gee, I wonder why. She hangs up most nights and then cries and yells at me to stop answering the phone. Great dad.