Liveitwell

God never ceases to amaze me-He constantly answers right on time! Today two things in particular came across my Facebook feed-one from a renowned relationship expert stating putting anything in front of your spouse will cause the marriage to break.: her list of items had to do with a spouse putting his parent/parents above his/her spouse. It was something I had a lot of experience with as my then husband allowed and encouraged his mom and others to trash me while we were still married. I half way thought about sending it to him but that would be pointless-he still suckles off his momma, is scared crapless of doing anything on his own and never stood up for me bc his momma and sissy hung the moon-and that's how they like it-being her sons number one woman-she told me that!! Well, now they have each other! Disturbing is an understatement. As my therapist stated recently-I'm
Glad you see the level of dysfunction abuse and distortion you escaped in his family-I excitedly told her, "heck yes!!! God got me out-thank God"!!

Second article was about how porn is breaking America-how it causes boys/men to no longer relate sex with intimacy and equate it to dirty demeaning thungs-stuff again that I dealt with my ex. Porn and alcoholism, by men, are the two leading causes of divorce! Decreased morals, lack if empathy, increased emptiness only fulfilled by sex or alcohol-yep! And I've been there-that was me 100% before meeting my husband....but now, I stand talk and proud and as a healed person am trying very hard to help others heal. I don't hurt anymore-hurt people hurt others. So, all this rambling to say that I am just blessed beyond belief to see Gods hand in my life and see how he saved me-from myself. Bc I truly suck-and have the history and sins to prove it-I made a mess out of my life-but HE, He, the Good Lord redeemed me and I know I will never ever settle for less than I deserve ever again-I will never take second place to any "mans" mother (womem issues) or his addiction. I'm worth more! And so are my kids.

Just wanted to share the blessings I've received - I think FireSprite said before, like little reaffirmations along the way showing me that hell yes I made the right decision to divorce my husband and those toxic individuals related to him and get my kids the heck out. God always shows us whst we need to see.

Addiction! The devil is certainly pulling the wool over many people eyes.

Kboys

Liveitwell

Sorry for the misspellings in my post-not my strength today! Sheesh

KidsR#1

I agree. Both yesterday and today I had the same message pop up on my news feed about the12 steps of self care. Exactly what I have been working on.

Kboys

That one came up on my page the other day too... it's a good one.

You're right FoG... those little things along the way are such blessings!

Kboys

Sorry, trying unsuccessfully to post an image...

Liveitwell

You're way ahead of me-I am technologically stupid and have no idea how to do anything on this site other than post

Kboys

Apparently neither do I... I still can't figure out how to multi-quote either

Dimndaruf

FOG...I love this post! I hate what it entails but I can definitely relate. Porn and alcohol were definitely 2 destructive forces in my marriage.

And yes, the devil is always working - destroying people and families....

Thanks for sharing

Liveitwell

^ yep-you have to fight each day against the devil-he always lurks and likes nothing more than to keep people in a prison of their own making-addiction, fear, etc-bring a slave to a thing or other person. Sad state of affairs but we can pray-prayer does work, it does heal you and restore you

HHTexas

Yes porn and alcohol. Ugh. Relationship killers.