Can you remind me not to engage with MIL?
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Hi Kboys,
Just wanted to let you know that your unsent text made me laugh out loud. I'm sure it felt good to write, too. Like everyone else, I think you did the right thing not to send it . . . but I also think it was probably cathartic to write it and think about sending it.
A book I'm currently reading, Christina McGhee's "Parenting Apart" has a few pages on how to help children through "less than ideal situations." From what she says, it sounds like you're navigating this tough time for your kids just right
Just wanted to let you know that your unsent text made me laugh out loud. I'm sure it felt good to write, too. Like everyone else, I think you did the right thing not to send it . . . but I also think it was probably cathartic to write it and think about sending it.
A book I'm currently reading, Christina McGhee's "Parenting Apart" has a few pages on how to help children through "less than ideal situations." From what she says, it sounds like you're navigating this tough time for your kids just right
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I'm glad to read you didn't send it. It was a good one though 
I wrote many an email - said 'take that dumb ass' and then deleted it, lol.
As far as MIL or other ancillary people - it took me awhile to realize I had more than one dance partner. Trading one for the other just kept me spinning on the dance floor. I could stop the spinning by just stepping away - it was as simple as that. It was hard at first but it gets MUCH easier because it works.
The best holiday's and events are the one's that are relaxed and full of joy - and sometimes that depends more on who is not there than on who is there. It might be OK she can't make it.
I wrote many an email - said 'take that dumb ass' and then deleted it, lol.As far as MIL or other ancillary people - it took me awhile to realize I had more than one dance partner. Trading one for the other just kept me spinning on the dance floor. I could stop the spinning by just stepping away - it was as simple as that. It was hard at first but it gets MUCH easier because it works.
The best holiday's and events are the one's that are relaxed and full of joy - and sometimes that depends more on who is not there than on who is there. It might be OK she can't make it.
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Kboys, glad you are hanging in there and keeping on keeping on.
It is never YOUR responsibility to feel guilty for HIS behavior. He did terribly abusive things to you and your kids, and THAT is why he is not seeing his kids now. It has nothing to do with you at all.
Be proud of yourself for standing up for what is right, and take a little extra time this weekend to something just for you. You deserve it!
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It is never YOUR responsibility to feel guilty for HIS behavior. He did terribly abusive things to you and your kids, and THAT is why he is not seeing his kids now. It has nothing to do with you at all.
Be proud of yourself for standing up for what is right, and take a little extra time this weekend to something just for you. You deserve it!
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