thousandwords53

I will make time to reply to others soon but
SPALDING
Read this post:
http://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/ve...be-the-abuser/

Spalding

Hmm, thanks for the link! I`ll think more on this. I`ll also try to describe my actions in my thread so I dont hijack this one.

LexieCat

I strongly disagree with that article, to the extent that it labels as "abuse" actions that are a reaction or response to abuse. Such acts may be wrong, from a legal/moral/practical standpoint (physical violence is never OK, but it isn't always "abuse"), but the motives and causes are much different.

People who are victimized by abuse sometimes do behave in ways that are harmful to themselves and others, and they can benefit greatly by finding better ways to respond, but I would never label such a person as an "abuser."

thousandwords53

I think I posted the wrong article, dangit. The one I was really looking for had a spin on it explaining if you felt yourself as being the abuser, it was more than likely a defensive mechanism. I will try my hardest to find the article that's stuck in my mind.

feeling-good

Fascinating information....thanks for this thread