Omg HE MARRIED HER IN VEGAS this weekend!!!
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Originally Posted by Jodie77 
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Thank you. Some people on this site are very harsh and don't show empathy themselves and they make the healing process harder. I try to ignore their insensitive remarks....it's very rude. Thank you for being understanding!
Your response helped me
Thank you. Some people on this site are very harsh and don't show empathy themselves and they make the healing process harder. I try to ignore their insensitive remarks....it's very rude. Thank you for being understanding!
Your response helped me
Some people are better than others at expressing themselves in writing. Have seen many times where a post was misinterpreted, and a poster was upset not having meant to upset anyone.
Sure there can be out an out rudeness and that is normally addressed by a moderator or a member might catch it first.
As we say take what you want and leave the rest. You aren't obligated to answer to anyone here, and people are going to respond in "their" way.
Hope you are feeling better today.
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Jodie-
For me this healing was a process.
People's statements were also a process for me. When I first started recovery it was with a sweet, kind loving person who helped to nurture me by not pushing me. I stayed with her for five years.
Then I met my current therapist, who shows me love by pushing me and being okay when I am upset, angry etc because of her pushing me. I have been working with her in some capacity for over 10. She terrified me at first, but I have moved and healed in ways I would not have been capable of with my first therapist.
I needed them both, the first for nurturing me until I could take some pushing, then second for doing that pushing even when it hurts me (because then it gives me a chance to heal it fully).
I was terrified of straightforward people for a long time, but as my recovery has deepened so has my comfort level (and respect) for those that can tell it like it is abounds.
Just like healing from the hurt you are experiencing this took me time.....but I am better person for talking about it, saying it hurts and sitting with"why" it made me uncomfortable. I have come to find out it is usually something triggered in me (and not the other person) that has made me react.
For me this healing was a process.
People's statements were also a process for me. When I first started recovery it was with a sweet, kind loving person who helped to nurture me by not pushing me. I stayed with her for five years.
Then I met my current therapist, who shows me love by pushing me and being okay when I am upset, angry etc because of her pushing me. I have been working with her in some capacity for over 10. She terrified me at first, but I have moved and healed in ways I would not have been capable of with my first therapist.
I needed them both, the first for nurturing me until I could take some pushing, then second for doing that pushing even when it hurts me (because then it gives me a chance to heal it fully).
I was terrified of straightforward people for a long time, but as my recovery has deepened so has my comfort level (and respect) for those that can tell it like it is abounds.
Just like healing from the hurt you are experiencing this took me time.....but I am better person for talking about it, saying it hurts and sitting with"why" it made me uncomfortable. I have come to find out it is usually something triggered in me (and not the other person) that has made me react.
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Jodie, perhaps change the way you are looking at this. I think you are so lucky that this person showed you who he really is before you two married. Imagine being yoked to someone who has so little regard for the feelings of his partner. I think it would be best to wish his marriage success so he will stay the hell out of your life.
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Okay people.
Go take a walk around the block. Breathe some air.
Come back tomorrow when you can contribute your personal experience to some other thread.
As the posts have turned into criticism of each other, and are no longer supportive of the original poster I am closing this thread.
Mike
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Go take a walk around the block. Breathe some air.
Come back tomorrow when you can contribute your personal experience to some other thread.
As the posts have turned into criticism of each other, and are no longer supportive of the original poster I am closing this thread.
Mike
Moderator, SR
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