Redheadsusie

He is out of the house - for more than 1 month - He told me had started AA and realized his drinking was hurtful to me and he was sorry- Said he realized he needed to stop - his body felt funny- so after his AA meeting he said we could meet for dinner- I said ok- I am proud of him - I mean that! At dinner he was stern- no laughing - said the people at AA were bad off- he did not belong -very odd- looked weird - chugging tea - almost like he was white knuckling- admitted he had an Odouls while cleaning the boat - I said that is your choice- no judgment from me - I finally told him he looked stressed and I was worried about him- oh boy - he said "why are you attacking me? " WTF? I thought I was being nice and concerned. Well I realized after dinner- I need to continue my path of healthy living- happiness and peace. I have that without him- when I see him he f's up my mojo. He texted me today- and said I am the most judgmental person he knows - and he can't tell me he will never drink - and I am too demanding and he should not have to live like that. Then the ugly comments started - you know- I am a bad wife- Iput my kids ahead of him- I did not have sex enough with him - said ****** things about my dead Father - so I said I won't text or talk to you. I understand they flip things around to make us feel bad and them feel better - I didn't ask him to stop drinking- just told him there was no longer a place in my life where alcohol was put in front of me. He chooses this life - I don't anymore. I just need to keep my path and not turn back or listen to his bullcrap. He is so hateful to me I truly am shocked at some of the **** he says but I have allowed it. I am concentrating on me and my career and my friends and family- people who don't truly resent me like he does. It is insanity! Thanks for listening- not crying anymore. :-)

fedup3

Good for you Redheadsusie! You're doing great and keep following peace for you life.

MissFixit

Good for you for being strong.

FYI, Odoul's has a small amount of alcohol in it. Very low but its there.

LexieCat

Yup, sure is.

I think I'd pass on the dinner invitations with Mister White-Knuckle for a while.

Glad you see through it.

Redheadsusie

Mister White Knuckle ? :-) Made me giggle!

Rachinator

I know how you feel. Stay strong, you are better than that

readerbaby71

Sounds like he's looking for reasons to drink again and it is ALL YOUR FAULT! I'm glad you have a healthy perspective. Keep at it. xo

Mags1

Good for you, Redheadsusie, stick to your guns.xx