BlueChair

Butterfly Im so sorry for what your going through. Based on my husband have to say its normal reaction to feel so low, and speak about all the things they feel. Most people with addiction are hurting inside Butterfly. Change is a process and did you know having ambivalence is part of it. On one hand he wants to quit and knows its a mess, but he is addicted and cant see in his mind how he can function without continuing. Its a scary, sad place to be.

Butterfly

Thank you bluechair, that's the thing he is adamant that he doesn't want to quit it's as if he has accepted this is the path he is going down and nothing can change that. He will not speak to anyone as that means talking about some very difficult childhood experiences and he isn't able to talk about those.

I know he is hurting and I am worried about him especially as he is now drink driving again but I also accept that I can't fix him he has to want it for himself!