Soberella66

I was wondering if anyone has any ESH they could share as far as changing phone numbers, email address(s) and online sites and profiles so a person can't find you. It doesn't seem fair to go through this, but it feels like a good step in avoiding possibilities for any future contact as well as clearing out old bad juju from the past.

Seren

Well, the phone number e-mail thing is pretty easy. Once you have those, you can only give them out the positive, lovely people in your life

On-line profiles are a bit tough because you are associated with a specific name. It is possible to ask to have the old profile taken down or the name changed. Once you set up a new account, you just change how it looks. Don't use the same pictures or colors or images, etc. Maybe use a slightly different style of writing.....

I'm sure others will have some great suggestions!

Katiekate

blocking was the best thing for me.

I changed numbers a couple of times, he got the numbers.

You can go online and pay to get phone numbers.

And yes private numbers can be gotten too.

Blocking worked to some degree but they can call from another phone, get a new email address.

Not listening to messages, not reading or anwering emails, etc.. was what finaly worked.

The other option is to go to court and get a no contact order.

Taking5

This is what I vote for.

lillamy

You could check with your local women's shelter; they usually have attorneys that can advise you on whether or not his behavior makes it realistic to get a restraining/protective order. Many states have two different kind -- one for domestic violence, one for harassment. There are definitions of what constitutes both, but it also depends an awful lot on what judge happens to preside when you get to court.

If you have an iPhone, they now have an easy ability to block numbers (google it!). I would also think the service provider would be able to change your number at no charge if you explain the situation.

It's unfair. It's a PITA. But it's a good way of limiting contact. And when you're dealing with unreasonable people, there are a lot of unreasonable things you end up having to do... Unfortunately.