Crazed

Happy Easter. EXAG and I have been NC. I just got a collect call from jail. I did not answer. Then I looked up on the web- earlier today she got another DUI, and driving while license suspended.

Her hearing for the DUI she got in Feb is on Tuesday. I assume this will land her in jail for a long time.

I am heartbroken, as I think the situation for her is hopeless. I have lost my love and my friend to this disease.

Rosiepetal

I am so sorry.
It's a horrible disease that we can't control.
She will have to learn on her own.
Big hugs to you.

AnvilheadII

might be the best thing that ever happened to her, a lengthy stint in jail. at least she's off the streets and no one is in danger from her reckless behaviors.

LexieCat

I agree with Anvil--this might be the best thing that could happen to her.

I hope you will resist the urge to ride to the rescue. She is the one getting herself into these jams. She has to FEEL where her life is headed if she doesn't stop. People survive jail. People flourish sometimes after a hard wakeup call. Leave her alone to work this out for herself. It will be the best thing for both of you.

Crazed

Thanks. I refused the collect calls without giving it a second thought. But I did call and let her sponsor know. I also let her ex-husband know, as someone (her kids I am assuming) will need to go to her place and look after the puppy. So I am rescuing a bit- rescuing the puppy.

The emptiness I feel is huge. I had a glimmer of hope left for her, and deep down inside for us.

1newcreation

HAPPY EASTER TO YOU TOO SIR! If the 1st time she didn't get it, then hopefully this time she does. Don't stress yourself over things/people that you have no control over. Mine totalled my car then didn't even get arrested to add insult to injury. Luckily I was refred to mechanic that helped a friend in my home group but I had to cash out my IRA & even worse she hasn't still offred a dime to help me. She knows if she joins AA she will have to quit all together so no matter how many women I talk to or b**** @ the guys in my network, its fruitless coz I'm powerless over people just as a drink.
But I do think if she spent a nite in the can it would wake her up since she's never
If you can get out of relationship or what have you, then do so. I wish I could but there's three boys hanging in the balance.
Let's @ least rejoice TODAY that He is risen. He is risen indeed!

thislonelygirl

I am so sorry for your hurt.
Even if I were to say it could be what gets her sober and right...it still doesnt change the fact that it had to come to this or what will happen.
Best wishes

dandylion

Dear crazed, I am sorry that you are hurting so bad.

My friend--it is time to "Let go and let God". You can still love or care for her from a distance.

As long as there is life, there is hope--maybe not for this relationship--but for her recovery.

Best thing you can do right now (for both of you) is to get out of her way.

It won't always feel this way.

sincerely, dandylion