Update on Me and AS
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Update on Me and AS
It's been a few weeks since I posted about how things are going. First for me, I am still working on my business project and it is going extremely well. Not only is there a financial incentive for it but it also forces me to go out in public and see people. Once son started getting in trouble I avoided going out because I was so embarrassed by his behavior. It has been eye opening going out again. I can't tell you how many friends have confided that their kids have issues too. I'm not the only one. I guess it shouldn't but it made me feel better to know that I'm not the only one.
My son is sober and working his program. He asked to stay here at night (he has his own house) while his college friends are in town because he doesn't think he is strong enough to not go out with them. He has been here for about a week and a half and things are good. VERY GOOD. He is kind, considerate, helpful, likeable and all those things that he wasn't while he was drinking. He usually comes here after his AA meetings and spends time with the family then goes to bed and goes home the next morning to do whatever it is he needs to do. He has suggested that he may want to do this until he has had 90 days sober or whenever he feels like he is far enough along in his recovery to handle the temptations. I actually feel like I have my son back. I realize this is a one day at a time process but we are working this individually and as a family. I put myself before my son but am willing to support him (emotionally) as long as he is putting more effort into his recovery than I am.
My son is sober and working his program. He asked to stay here at night (he has his own house) while his college friends are in town because he doesn't think he is strong enough to not go out with them. He has been here for about a week and a half and things are good. VERY GOOD. He is kind, considerate, helpful, likeable and all those things that he wasn't while he was drinking. He usually comes here after his AA meetings and spends time with the family then goes to bed and goes home the next morning to do whatever it is he needs to do. He has suggested that he may want to do this until he has had 90 days sober or whenever he feels like he is far enough along in his recovery to handle the temptations. I actually feel like I have my son back. I realize this is a one day at a time process but we are working this individually and as a family. I put myself before my son but am willing to support him (emotionally) as long as he is putting more effort into his recovery than I am.
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BSA, you wrote ¨I can't tell you how many friends have confided that their kids have issues too.¨
I found that to be true, too. My A was my partner. I was in denial for a long time, tried to hide the problem for a long time. When I finally quit hiding & covering up for him I realized it was no secret-everybody already knew of his drinking problem. But what was a surprise to me was that several people confided their own stories of spouses/parents/children with alcohol/addiction problems. We really are not alone.
I'm so glad to hear of your son's progress. It sounds like he is truly making an effort. But remember, one day at a time. Best wishes to both of you.
I found that to be true, too. My A was my partner. I was in denial for a long time, tried to hide the problem for a long time. When I finally quit hiding & covering up for him I realized it was no secret-everybody already knew of his drinking problem. But what was a surprise to me was that several people confided their own stories of spouses/parents/children with alcohol/addiction problems. We really are not alone.
I'm so glad to hear of your son's progress. It sounds like he is truly making an effort. But remember, one day at a time. Best wishes to both of you.
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