sandrawg

This has been a rough week. I was going slow with this very nice guy..seemed like things were promising..then he started showing a pattern of being disrespectful and blowing me off when we supposedly had plans. I had to break it off on Saturday.

On Sunday at 3am, some crazy guy on drugs was standing outside my balcony, in my condo complex, screaming death threats at his brother, whom he was arguing with. I had to call the cops.

Today I found out, my father has Alzheimers. I'm going back east in mid-June to see him and other family members. My grandmother died of Alzheimers, so this is all really scary. I love my dad more than the world.

Also, my birthday is coming up AND the 4 yr annivesary of when I met my exabf. Thank goodness I am in the program and doing the steps, or I'd be very depressed right now...

MeredithD1

wow Sandrawg, you are really in the middle of a pile-up here! I'm glad you're in the program and doing the steps, too.

Good thing you were going slow with the disrespectful one; you took such good care of yourself by breaking it off instead of continuing alone and "hoping" it would get better. (blech)

I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. I am close with my dad too, so I have an idea of some feelings that you are going through. Seeing him next month will, I hope, be a soothing balm to you.

simplyfab

Hi Sandrawg...
When it rains, it pours, huh?
That's alot to take in. Especially about your father. I'm so sorry to hear about his illness.
You're in my thoughts and hope that you stay strong during this difficult time.
Best wishes for you and your family...

NTurn

Sorry to hear you are going through a rough time, you are in my thoughts & as simplyfab said..stay strong. I have been in the situation where I also have had to call cops due to ex neighbors fighting, drug taking on my street. Its scary & intimidating...you did the right thing. My mum used to tell me you can go so far down and the only way back is up! Take care and I hope this coming week is better for you. Chin up

TakingCharge999

I've had some rough moments this week too...

All the best sandra, keep taking care of yourself... I am very sorry about your dad.. Melody Beatty "Grief club" book has a chapter dedicated to having someone close suffer from Alzheimer.... perhaps it would be a good read? that whole book is excellent...

Sending you HUGS...

Soph

((Sandrawg)) I am sorry you're having a rough week.

I would like to point out to you all the ways you are coping in a positive way:

1. You dumped a guy who was causing you pain.
2. You called the police when an idiot was disturbing the peace.
3. You made plans to be there for your father - to be present.
4. You have the foresight to see ahead to dates which might be dramatic for you, and gird yourself for possible emotional seesaw.
5. You posted here!! And are working the 12 steps!!

I would say that you are handling everything really well. Keep that chin up high.

Jemma

Well said !
and I agree !
wishing you all the best X

wanttobehealthy

You have a lot on your plate-- as someone else said, when it rains it pours...

Please do something kind for yourself and know that you have many people thinking of you and caring about you.

TakingCharge999

What will u do for ur bday sandra..?

forgotten1

hi sandra ::hugs:: one day... one thing... at a time... if you find yourself flustered--do a breathing exercise like in yoga--breathe in slowly counting and breathe out slowly counting, but longer than your breath in... it honestly helps to calm your mind (neuroscientifically driven)

Tuffgirl

When I am feeling raw - I do what Soph did here...try to give everything a positive spin in my mind. Amazingly, it works! Sometimes it takes a little while, but it does help pull us out of the funk.

I am sorry for your week - hoping for a better weekend for you.

~T