Lying
Lying
My boyfriend lied to me again. My eyes are not so great, and my hearing sucks, but there is nothing wrong with my sense of placement, my memory, or my sense of smell. I'm not sure what he's trying to prove, but so far he's proven that gaslighting is the new Olympic sport.
The other day I went over to have lunch with him, and he stank like the night before. He asked me to stay the night, and I said no. I didn't mention the smell because it's none of my business. But yesterday, we were talking and he said he hadn't had anything to drink since he broke our lunch date 3 weeks ago due to a hangover. I pointed out the empty wine bottle next to my garden, the smell last week, the cork next to his bed. He said all that was from 3 weeks ago. I don't think so. He's putting his gloss over my sense of reality - gaslighting at its finest. I actually believed that maybe I was mistaken for a minute; then I remembered; I'd weeded that garden the weekend before. There was no bottle of wine.
I find it maddening. Maybe he's lying to himself. Maybe he doesn't remember. Maybe it doesn't matter, because the fact is he lied to me again!
I hate liars. I hate alcoholics. I hate drama. I'm stomping off to a meeting in an hour. Maybe I'll be quiet at this one and learn something!!!!
- Sylvie
The other day I went over to have lunch with him, and he stank like the night before. He asked me to stay the night, and I said no. I didn't mention the smell because it's none of my business. But yesterday, we were talking and he said he hadn't had anything to drink since he broke our lunch date 3 weeks ago due to a hangover. I pointed out the empty wine bottle next to my garden, the smell last week, the cork next to his bed. He said all that was from 3 weeks ago. I don't think so. He's putting his gloss over my sense of reality - gaslighting at its finest. I actually believed that maybe I was mistaken for a minute; then I remembered; I'd weeded that garden the weekend before. There was no bottle of wine.
I find it maddening. Maybe he's lying to himself. Maybe he doesn't remember. Maybe it doesn't matter, because the fact is he lied to me again!
I hate liars. I hate alcoholics. I hate drama. I'm stomping off to a meeting in an hour. Maybe I'll be quiet at this one and learn something!!!!
- Sylvie
I liked this part made me smile -
I'm picturing the classic stage-stomping -
where the arms are swinging,
the whole body is tilted forward, following the head...
maybe the 'Angry Fred Flintstone tuba music' in the background...
made me smile.
I'm stomping off to a meeting in an hour. Maybe I'll be quiet at this one and learn something!!!!
where the arms are swinging,
the whole body is tilted forward, following the head...
maybe the 'Angry Fred Flintstone tuba music' in the background...
made me smile.
So what do you guys do when you know someone is lying to you? Do you confront that person?
I have a hard time (understatement of the year) shutting up and disconnecting when I know I'm being lied to.
I have a hard time (understatement of the year) shutting up and disconnecting when I know I'm being lied to.
I find it maddening.
Maybe he's lying to himself.
I hate liars. I hate alcoholics. I hate drama.
Sorry things are so crummy. You deserve SO much better.
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Glad you are going to meetings..I'm going to quote what I have been told here at least 3 or 4 times, and that is, "You didn't cause this, you cannot control this, and you cannot cure him." I think I said that right..pretty sure I did, maybe not in the right order but anywho. Just take care of YOU sweetie!!! ((((Hugs))))
Florence -
I think your question deserves its own thread!
"What do YOU do when someone is lying to you?"
that's a great thread, I'm sayin!
Lying to me says =-
the disease is still stronger than the recovery.
I think your question deserves its own thread!
"What do YOU do when someone is lying to you?"
that's a great thread, I'm sayin!
Lying to me says =-
the disease is still stronger than the recovery.
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Join Date: May 2008
Posts: 1,103
What do you do when someone keeps lying to you, as alcoholics ALWAYs do?
You walk.
Because you basically have a farce of a relationship. Healthy relationships rely on trust. Trust is impossible with an alcoholic. They can't even be honest with THEMSELVES.
I wasted 3.5 yrs on one; pls don't make my same mistake.
You walk.
Because you basically have a farce of a relationship. Healthy relationships rely on trust. Trust is impossible with an alcoholic. They can't even be honest with THEMSELVES.
I wasted 3.5 yrs on one; pls don't make my same mistake.
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