Duped

Anyone ever experienced that? I think my ex has finally come to the realisation that she can no longer get a rise out of me. Now for quite some time - there is a refusal on her part to speak to me. I guess it's a form of sulking. She can't get me upset or angry and has now simply given up. She's moved onto her other enablers.

tjp613

That's the beauty of detachment! You WIN!

Duped

It's weird - now that the goal of detachment has been achieved, it's difficult to fathom it. lol.

Bucyn

That's good, it means she got the picture--some ex's take forever to get a clue.

Is there any reason to talk to her? If not, consider yourself lucky.

(my guess is she found another enabler, and you just don't exist any more. She's not sulking, she's moved on, she doesn't need you anymore--again, lucky you)

lulu1974

In my situation, the minute he found someone else he broke off contact. It was a blessing. He tries to text me once in a while but I have NEVER responded. It was tough to get over MY addiction to him when he started no contact but looking back now I realize it would have been going round and round.

Hugs
Lulu

Bucyn

BTW, how do you know she's gone no contact with you? Have you been trying to contact her?

As I explained in another thread I went Commando No Contact with my XAH, even blocking everyone from the state of Ohio from calling my phone, blocking all Ohio based computer servers, 800 and private numbers, etc... I haven't got the faintest idea if he's tried to contact me or not. It's better that way.

dollydo

Ahhh....isn't the quietness great!

Lola1024

Silence is golden - however don't get complacent. My xabf is big on the silent treatment, he once we nearly 6 months with no contact. Then the phone rang and I went back a couple of years ago. Now I am starting over from scratch.

Geno

can't get to you once you "let go and let God"your higher power.