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LMC is indeed lucky to have such a great Father. She must worship you.
Thanks and God bless us all,
Coyote
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I believe little kids deserve the truth, and that the CRAZY MAKING comes from seeing something with your own eyes and then being told something different happened.
The surprise registered on LMC's face, and she responded by saying that that explained mom's often weird behavior which was explained away as being tired etc..
The truth made LMC mad, but I could tell she was relieved on some level to have the REALITY she'd been living justified. IDK, I try to do what I believe is best for LMC, not for mom.
Thanks and God bless us all,
Coyote
The surprise registered on LMC's face, and she responded by saying that that explained mom's often weird behavior which was explained away as being tired etc..
The truth made LMC mad, but I could tell she was relieved on some level to have the REALITY she'd been living justified. IDK, I try to do what I believe is best for LMC, not for mom.
Thanks and God bless us all,
Coyote
I agree that you have done the right thing to be truthful with your daughter. My brother started around that same age to be truthful with his children about their unstable mom and at that point they could start learning the tools and coping strategies to deal with her. And he had to start at that age, because soon enough the girls would be on their own without him and they needed to be 'armed' with the tools to help them cobble out a relationship (or the absence of one) with their mother.
, this was NOT a decision I made lightly/spur of the moment,
Maybe as young children there are no conditions on love. ( but my 13 year old is pretty much done with her father)
They (we) eventually grow up (quickly) and see parents for who they are and how they treated us.
She may not feel it now, but the things her mom does now will impact her future feelings. She will remember and not fondly.
That's where you come in - Dad will pick up all the slack and make everything ok.
Cause that is what we do.
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