Another loved one lost the battle
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You have my deepest sympathies ... the pain of such a tragic loss is overwhelming.
It has been over 2 years since my husband lost his battle with alcohol ... after sharing a lifetime together, with all the joyful memories that in time were replaced by the endless heartbreak of addiction. There still is not a day that goes by that I do not ask myself "why?" ... knowing there will never be an answer.
You have helped so many over the years on this forum try to make sense of this nightmarish addiction. May your happy memories with her from years ago help heal your pain.
So very tragic, so very sad ... May you find serenity and peace during this difficult time.
It has been over 2 years since my husband lost his battle with alcohol ... after sharing a lifetime together, with all the joyful memories that in time were replaced by the endless heartbreak of addiction. There still is not a day that goes by that I do not ask myself "why?" ... knowing there will never be an answer.
You have helped so many over the years on this forum try to make sense of this nightmarish addiction. May your happy memories with her from years ago help heal your pain.
So very tragic, so very sad ... May you find serenity and peace during this difficult time.
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My sincerest sympathy to you and your family. Even tho the one who goes may not be our partner any more, it still grabs at us and causes grief and pain.
My XAH died suddenly 12 days ago, and even tho I have prayed for him to be released from his miserable existence, (bedridden in a nursing home), it hit me hard.
Yesterday was Father's Day here in Aussie, and our kids and grandkids really felt his not being here. It was a bitter sweet day for us all.
I wish you and your family all the consolation and healing you need.
God bless
My XAH died suddenly 12 days ago, and even tho I have prayed for him to be released from his miserable existence, (bedridden in a nursing home), it hit me hard.
Yesterday was Father's Day here in Aussie, and our kids and grandkids really felt his not being here. It was a bitter sweet day for us all.
I wish you and your family all the consolation and healing you need.
God bless
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I just returned from a day of viewings. I'm overwhelmed with love for her family, they still treat me as thier own and allow me any wish. Before her casket was closed at the end of the evening they let me put my wedding ring on her finger and pictures of the two of us in her coffin. Earlier they let me speak at her wake, this is what I said:
People say life is too short
People say it’s better to have loved and lost than to never have known love
People say only the fortunate few have known the love of a lifetime
People say lifes most cherished treasures are relationships between friends, family and loved ones
Friends and family say Mel had a huge heart
Friends and family say she never met a stranger
Friends and family say Mel lit up any room she entered.
Friends and family say Mary Ellen and her brother, my dear friend Steven, had a special bond
I say all these things are true
I want to thank you for sharing with me some of the best years of our lives.
You can rest easy my friend, your struggle is over and can let go of your heavy burden, it’s no longer yours to carry
We will all miss you, I will miss you terribly, you are the love of my life
I just wanted to share that, thanks for letting me.
People say life is too short
People say it’s better to have loved and lost than to never have known love
People say only the fortunate few have known the love of a lifetime
People say lifes most cherished treasures are relationships between friends, family and loved ones
Friends and family say Mel had a huge heart
Friends and family say she never met a stranger
Friends and family say Mel lit up any room she entered.
Friends and family say Mary Ellen and her brother, my dear friend Steven, had a special bond
I say all these things are true
I want to thank you for sharing with me some of the best years of our lives.
You can rest easy my friend, your struggle is over and can let go of your heavy burden, it’s no longer yours to carry
We will all miss you, I will miss you terribly, you are the love of my life
I just wanted to share that, thanks for letting me.
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One last update on this thread.
Mels funeral was last Wednesday and it was a beautiful service and a ton of people were there. The family asked if I would be a pallbearer and of course I agreed. The weather was sketchy that day and called for overcast and rain. But as the prosession took the short trip from the service to the cemetery the clouds broke and the sun came out as we carried her to her final resting place.
I just learned today the cause of death listed on the death certificate was liver failure due to cirrhosis of the liver. Apparently the toxicology and blood chemistry tests were enough to make this determination.
I want to thank everyone at SR for all the support and help I have received over the past four years. I wish that nobody else ever has to loose a loved on to this terrible addiction. Know that there is support for loved ones who suffer from addiction if they choose, just as there is support for friends and family who suffer along with them.
My wish is that maybe just one person struggling with alcoholism will read this thread and decide to choose life.
Mels funeral was last Wednesday and it was a beautiful service and a ton of people were there. The family asked if I would be a pallbearer and of course I agreed. The weather was sketchy that day and called for overcast and rain. But as the prosession took the short trip from the service to the cemetery the clouds broke and the sun came out as we carried her to her final resting place.
I just learned today the cause of death listed on the death certificate was liver failure due to cirrhosis of the liver. Apparently the toxicology and blood chemistry tests were enough to make this determination.
I want to thank everyone at SR for all the support and help I have received over the past four years. I wish that nobody else ever has to loose a loved on to this terrible addiction. Know that there is support for loved ones who suffer from addiction if they choose, just as there is support for friends and family who suffer along with them.
My wish is that maybe just one person struggling with alcoholism will read this thread and decide to choose life.
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Originally Posted by Jazzman 
One last update on this thread.
My wish is that maybe just one person struggling with alcoholism will read this thread and decide to choose life.
My wish is that maybe just one person struggling with alcoholism will read this thread and decide to choose life.
Perhaps many more than "one"
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I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time. I belive that the difference in our relationships, is that we never stop or stopped loving our spouses. She is at peace now.
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