FreeingMyself

Well.....with all the revelations my AH had, it didn't last to long til it seemed he had forgotten what he realized. I think I am more upset now because I know that HE KNOWS what he does, and still does it despite it....
Anyway, after my last post several people reminded me to think about me and take care of myself....and that is definately what I am doing. My book arrived in the mail: Codependent No More...and I have made it through about 3 1/2 chapters today.....let's just say that WOW....I can so relate to this book, and am SO excited to work on finding the me I used to be - All the things I have read about being emeshed in someone else's problems....that was me in my first marriage, and me now....well NO MORE....I have decided that I am going to really take to heart what I am reading and apply it to my life. Not an easy road ahead...I know this, but whichever road I take it is going to be what is best for me.

GiveLove

*****oooooooooooooooooo mentally!!!!!
So happy to see you taking care of yourself, no matter what he chooses to do or not do. YOUR life and your kids' can still be amazing.

naive

that's great news, mentally exhausted. step by step, one day at a time.

i'm finding the step work helpful also, although i'm a bit stuck on the first step!

"i admit i am powerless over alchohol"

Daisy30

Good for you!!! When your done with that book Try "The Language of Letting Go" by the same author. I have the "journal" version. It is fabulous!!!

You are doing great!

AWEDA

I have owned that book for almost 15 years. As I got in a roundabout way what they were saying the first time I read it, I kept reading it over the years until I fully understood the meaning of how codependency affected my life. At this point I can say I honestly "get" the ways my life has been screwed up from loved ones addictions. Read it several times until it sinks in.Old habits die hard in codependents. Life is so much better when you understand why we make the choices we do.