ellima01

AH left on mother's day for the "farm retreat" as in my last post- I told him I wanted a divorce- he agreed, 2 weekslater on memorial day he begged his way back and of course I caved. He admitted to me that during his last rehab in FL he met a woman, and that after I told him I wanted a divorce he had been with her- the retreat was a lie- everything was a lie. I was devastated- crying just a basket case. He said he would do anything to make it right- and of course I caved again- lets give it ONE more one more chance. He did everything right- planning a wedding vow renewal to start over- meanwhile the crackwho**e he had been with began stalking us. We changed phone #'s 3 times, she came to the house and he went (without any coaxing from me) to the police and got a warrent for her arrest. I thought, OK- he is doing the right things- This last Fri nite I worked 7p-7a- he txt me all night - love you, miss you , cant wait to renew our vows and begin a new life- I show up Sat morn and the crackw**re car is in my driveway and they are together in my basement her laying in his lap- my son asleep upstairs. He was so drunk he thought I had left wrk early. So I beat the crap out of the chick and made them leave.
I am so humiliated at my stupidity and I am so DONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Now I am worried about him being able to get visitation w our daughter and worried he will take our 1/2 our house- even tho the only reason we have this house is that I sold a house I owned previous to our marriage to put down on it. You guys all told me and I chose not to hear. But It is over now.
He has take 3000$ from our savings in the last 31/2 wks so now I have to take out a loan to pay my attny. Its worth it tho. His parents are supportive of me - relieved I am finally doing what needed to be done long ago- still hurts- he was telling me he loves me while this wh**re is in my house. I will never trust again.

GiveLove

Well........be sure to never trust HIM again.

Live and learn from this, ellima.

Do you have all of your bank accounts closed off from him now?

Have you changed the locks?

I am glad you are done.

((( ellima )))

ellima01

accounts are closed- changing locks will do no good since the police dept. says until I have him legally evicted- they can come here and break a window to get in if they want- and he would. So I am trying to get the eviction done ASAP.

hadenoughnow

My ESH, I changed the locks after my STBX stole my snowblower (it was supposed to be mine in the settlement). I changed the locks even though my attorney said it "could cause trouble". My ex did nothing about it and stopped trying to get back into the house.