alcoholic behavior?

Old 11-11-2008, 03:22 PM
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alcoholic behavior?

I'm new to this so I was wondering what others have experieneced to a degree with their alcoholic associate.

in regards to lieing, manipulation, coldness, social behavior.

my Alcoholic associate, whenever we go out, she would call her friends to hang out with us. even to dinner, I tell her I like my alone time with her yet it doesnt effect her and she still does what she want.

she says im socially ignorant, I don't know how the world works. I have the mentality of a 15 year old.

*something happened recently with Associate and just decided to talk on here so I don't call or txt msg her and look desperate.

It's funny because I'm the one who is looking for help yet shes the one with the addiction.
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Old 11-11-2008, 03:28 PM
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she says im socially ignorant, I don't know how the world works. I have the mentality of a 15 year old.
Alcoholic or not, why allow someone to talk to me like this?
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Old 11-11-2008, 04:06 PM
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I was commenting on her problem, I read somewhere I shouldnt argue with a alcoholic. its the alcohol and not them.

someone a forum member said when you bring up their issue, they will bark and it happened.
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I wouldn't argue. Today, I would walk away and never look back.
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So back to the subject of you-why would you want someone who treats you like that as a friend? I'm being serious here.
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The big question I had to answer for myself was why was I spending time with someone who lied to me, manipulated me, had poor social skills, was verbally abusive and cold towards me, had a drinking problem AND blamed all her troubles on me? Alcoholism is not her only problem.
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because no one else is there?
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Old 11-11-2008, 04:19 PM
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No one else is there? What does that mean?
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Old 11-11-2008, 04:20 PM
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because no one else is there?
for you? or for her?
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both I guess
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When I started to focus on myself and what I wanted out of life and stopped obsessing over what my alcoholic boyfriend was doing or not doing, then I found lots of new, much healthier friends to hang out with. And I'm much happier as a result.

Have you attended Alanon?
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