Cassey

ocoa. Is it possible for me to have ocoa, but not have an alcoholic parent???

My mom's dad was an A, and out of 11 kids atleast 8 of them became an A. My mom didnt though.

I do see the opposite of my mom, she is a codie. I think living with the alcoholic parent, she learned the behaviors of a co-dependent.

According to my mom, my dad was abusive with her physically, and I do remember fighting all the time, name calling, feeling nervous, feeling the need to please and to be recognized. I dont even like thinking about it.

I just read the characteristics of ocoa and wow!!!!

I wonder why not one of the counselors ever suggested this.

Reading the characteristics, has made me want to learn more about what ocoa is. Is there a difference between ocoa and co-dependent? It seems like alot of the traits are the same.

Wow, digging in my closet is pretty scary, but digging in it is the only way to start cleaning it out. I am going to start on a cleaning spree with atleast this one area of the closet. I want to see more results of this messy closet

Thank you splendra reading your post inspired me to read what ocoa is.

Freedom1990

Yep. Neither of my parents were/are alcoholics, but they certainly brought a lot of the dysfunctional behaviors/attitudes into their own lives. Both of my paternal grandparents were severe alcoholics and died before I was ever born. My mother also had an alcoholic brother who's now dead due to a horrible alcohol-related car accident.

Lilyflower

I have refered to myself as second generation ACOA, 2 of my grandparents one on each side were A's we didn't see much of them, but I have alot of ACOA issues too. It gets passed down through the generations, both my parents did not deal with their ACOA issues or their codependant issues, so I do believe I have been taught them.

Is codependancy and ACOA one and the same for second generation or third? Quite possibly

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