Acceptance and surrender
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Wow Givelove - I can totally see myself in how you answered those questions. In my "past" life (and present still), I would want everyone to know I had twins and it was so hard and my husband was an alcoholic and it was so hard, and blah, blah, blah. I got off on it. It gave me "worth" that I was raising twins and married to an A (who I was presumably saving). Now whenever anyone says "you sure have your hands full" referring to my boys, I say "full and blessed". And, I don't really want to discuss my STBXAH because I feel like I've wasted so much time worrying about him already. I'm trying REALLY hard to accept what my life is today. To find the blessings I have TODAY, right this moment. To stop focusing on all that has gone "wrong" and remember that God lead me down this path to get me where I am TODAY. Without all of "that", I wouldn't have my sons or my house or my job or my family or my friends. Was it all worth it? Yep.
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Join Date: Mar 2008
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more great stuff. thank you all.
last night when i signed off the board, i sat down and made a prayer list of everyone i could think of who i knew was in need of support and healing and then i said a prayer -- which i used to do every day.
then this morning when i woke up i said the 23rd Psalm, which is one of my favorite prayers because of (among other things) "...i shall not want."
i certainly don't feel worse and i dare to say i even feel better.
i don't yet have this insight that givelove is articulating and i agree it will be SO valuable. it's an excellent question. it does feel like the prayers, keeping it simple, may clear my head enough, focus my mind enough to let some answers come.
i certainly am able to believe this program works in spite of me. and i love the meetings and SR because i see it working for others when i can't see it in myself.
gratitude to all participating in this thread.
abc
last night when i signed off the board, i sat down and made a prayer list of everyone i could think of who i knew was in need of support and healing and then i said a prayer -- which i used to do every day.
then this morning when i woke up i said the 23rd Psalm, which is one of my favorite prayers because of (among other things) "...i shall not want."
i certainly don't feel worse and i dare to say i even feel better.
i don't yet have this insight that givelove is articulating and i agree it will be SO valuable. it's an excellent question. it does feel like the prayers, keeping it simple, may clear my head enough, focus my mind enough to let some answers come.
i certainly am able to believe this program works in spite of me. and i love the meetings and SR because i see it working for others when i can't see it in myself.
gratitude to all participating in this thread.
abc
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Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: looking for the sun in cold MN
Posts: 775
What a great thread.
Today is one of those days for me- going back to square one basically, but knowing square one these days isn't what it was 9 months ago when AH left. Acceptance is so incredibly hard. I've learned a lot from all of you and am grateful. Baby steps. . . but at least I know I'm still going forward.
Today is one of those days for me- going back to square one basically, but knowing square one these days isn't what it was 9 months ago when AH left. Acceptance is so incredibly hard. I've learned a lot from all of you and am grateful. Baby steps. . . but at least I know I'm still going forward.
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Join Date: May 2007
Location: Calif coast
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Mike- I can relate to "over-responsible"
It served me well as a youngster to get scholarships, promotions, etc.
Now It might drive me mad...or certainly my husband who can't keep up.
I was about to bail out early on a 3 week vacation and leave my husband there w/o me bec. I have so many responsibilities to get back to HA.
Instead, I will surrender that the world will go on w/o me while I am relaxing and away enjoying my husband and another country.
Relax relax relax, this is a foreign word - but I will surrender and enjoy.
It served me well as a youngster to get scholarships, promotions, etc.
Now It might drive me mad...or certainly my husband who can't keep up.
I was about to bail out early on a 3 week vacation and leave my husband there w/o me bec. I have so many responsibilities to get back to HA.
Instead, I will surrender that the world will go on w/o me while I am relaxing and away enjoying my husband and another country.
Relax relax relax, this is a foreign word - but I will surrender and enjoy.
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done stickied, I put it in the "Classic Reading" section.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...c-reading.html
Mike
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...c-reading.html
Mike
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