Lessons thrown into our path
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Join Date: May 2007
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Lessons thrown into our path
Some of you saw my thread yesterday stating that my son was expelled from his rehab and driven to a large city and dropped at a homeless shelter.
I got a collect phone call early this a.m. from him.
Last night there were no beds & no blankets left at the shelter so he slept on the blacktop of a parking lot with 50 other "bums"
He stayed sober and he wants to go back.
We had a wonderful lengthy conversation. I had no judgement, no lecture.
Just listened, shared my hope, and praised him for his decision to go back.
This was another lesson he needed thrown into his path. I just need to keep faith. However bad he needs it to get for him...it wil because it takes what it takes.
He said he had his same insanity thinking for most of the day upon getting kicked out, but he was able to go deeper and know what he needs to do.
He is to call rehab at 4 pm today and they may let him come back tonight. If not, he bucks it up one more night hungry on blacktop and goes back tomorrow.
The last 8 wks. at rehab he was breaking "all" the rules, so he had been restricted from call home. The silver lining here, is I got my phone call,
we had a meaningful conversation, he had to chance to see the insanity of his thinking. One day at a time we all move forward. I have a renewed faith in my own recovery.
The support I received yesterday was awesome. I am grateful + blessed.
I got a collect phone call early this a.m. from him.
Last night there were no beds & no blankets left at the shelter so he slept on the blacktop of a parking lot with 50 other "bums"
He stayed sober and he wants to go back.
We had a wonderful lengthy conversation. I had no judgement, no lecture.
Just listened, shared my hope, and praised him for his decision to go back.
This was another lesson he needed thrown into his path. I just need to keep faith. However bad he needs it to get for him...it wil because it takes what it takes.
He said he had his same insanity thinking for most of the day upon getting kicked out, but he was able to go deeper and know what he needs to do.
He is to call rehab at 4 pm today and they may let him come back tonight. If not, he bucks it up one more night hungry on blacktop and goes back tomorrow.
The last 8 wks. at rehab he was breaking "all" the rules, so he had been restricted from call home. The silver lining here, is I got my phone call,
we had a meaningful conversation, he had to chance to see the insanity of his thinking. One day at a time we all move forward. I have a renewed faith in my own recovery.
The support I received yesterday was awesome. I am grateful + blessed.
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I'm glad you got your phone call. A funny thing about recovery...it can get a hold on even stronger than the drugs, when you want it.
I'm sorry he's having to sleep on the blacktop, but it looks like that's what he needed to make his mind up. I'm so glad he's choosing recovery and that YOUR recovery is strong.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy
I'm glad you got your phone call. A funny thing about recovery...it can get a hold on even stronger than the drugs, when you want it.
I'm sorry he's having to sleep on the blacktop, but it looks like that's what he needed to make his mind up. I'm so glad he's choosing recovery and that YOUR recovery is strong.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy
get it, give it, grow in it
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My son made the call at 4 to the rehab and the director drove down and picked him up
giving him another chance. He admitted himself to rehab 8 wks. ago because I hounded him, today he chose to go back. He moves forward toward recovry. This makes me happy.
giving him another chance. He admitted himself to rehab 8 wks. ago because I hounded him, today he chose to go back. He moves forward toward recovry. This makes me happy.
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Hold that happiness close to your heart, and save it up for a rainy day.
My sponsor used to tell me that and I didn't understand, but I do now.
We know what a roller coaster it can be when you have a child in active alcoholism, and even into recovery.
It's those moments of happiness, of peaceful heart that we need to tuck away and pull out on the days where things can get a bit rough
I'm glad he stuck it out and is back in rehab! :ghug2
My sponsor used to tell me that and I didn't understand, but I do now.
We know what a roller coaster it can be when you have a child in active alcoholism, and even into recovery.
It's those moments of happiness, of peaceful heart that we need to tuck away and pull out on the days where things can get a bit rough
I'm glad he stuck it out and is back in rehab! :ghug2
get it, give it, grow in it
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My son called today from the rehab that he returned to.
Says he just might be ready to surrender and wants to give rule-following a try.
He told me he took his two month sober chip yesterday. "Atta BOY"
He was at a crossroads, luckily he saw it and chose the path moving toward recovery.
Says he just might be ready to surrender and wants to give rule-following a try.
He told me he took his two month sober chip yesterday. "Atta BOY"
He was at a crossroads, luckily he saw it and chose the path moving toward recovery.
get it, give it, grow in it
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Some of you responded to my 1st post and didn't see this update indicating that
"it is all good"
I have to believe he is going to make it this time.
I am packing up my house today to get out for a couple of months as the long thought about remodel will start at the end of the week. I am excited.
I can't believe how much junk, papers, misc. stuff I have accumulated. It feels great to throw out, donate and give away all the things that don't add to the quality of my life any longer. It is amazing how much clutter there was; It is very freeing to get rid of
it.
"it is all good"
I have to believe he is going to make it this time.
I am packing up my house today to get out for a couple of months as the long thought about remodel will start at the end of the week. I am excited.
I can't believe how much junk, papers, misc. stuff I have accumulated. It feels great to throw out, donate and give away all the things that don't add to the quality of my life any longer. It is amazing how much clutter there was; It is very freeing to get rid of
it.
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I need to do that again, SS. I "downsized" when I divorced and moved from a much bigger home to where I now am, but still have accumulated too much clutter in the past 3 years! And oh, to remodel/redecorate! What a dream... I am soooo happy for you
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