he blames me...how do I respond?

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02-08-2008, 10:42 AM

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karmakoma

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Just think - if you had enough power to make him drink, then you'd have enough to make him stop. Then you could make billions curing all the alcoholics in the world!

02-08-2008, 12:24 PM

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denny57

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I think an internal response is in order - don't accept the blame. No need to verbalize it.

02-08-2008, 01:06 PM

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fluffyflea

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Nothing willl work as long as he is an active A. Do for you and you only. It takes two to make a relationship work. At this point in time he is unavailable for a relationship. Right now he is only a physical body in a relationship. His love is himself and alcohol.

Ngaire

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Originally Posted by hollywood123

Thank you everyone for your responses. It has given me a lot of food for thought. I've been looking at this as what can I do for him; but now see I can only do for me. If I'm going to make this relationship work, it is going to be a difficult road a head and maybe I should look for a different path.....I guess this is a cross road I've been avoiding or thinking (dreaming) I wouldn't have to face. Does anyone think couples therapy would help? thanks again.....

02-10-2008, 07:23 AM

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hope2bhappy

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Originally Posted by barb dwyer

I'm an alcoholic... Alcoholics do not drink because of stress.

Finally! An admission straight from the horse's mouth. I read so many posts here where the poster believes their A drinks because of circumstances in his life (past or present). Thanks for this, Barb.