CBrown

I received a PM yesterday that got me thinking. I heard that from time to time misogynists lurk around the halls of SR, and I started wondering how many of us would characterize our XAs as misogynists? Or how many of us have known one in general. I'll be the first to put my hand up. My friends and I think my XABF despises women, ideally wants an older woman as a mommy-figure to emotionally beat up.

What happens to a person that they begin to hate the opposite sex and knowingly (or unknowingly) emotionally or physically beat them up? Is there treatment for this, or do they end up killing someone and going to prison?

LaTeeDa

I've learned that trying to figure out other people is a waste of my time. Perhaps a more productive and pertinent question would be "Why am I/was I attracted to someone with those traits?"

L

geees poncho

Mysogynists are they the counter part of Lilith.
I think that everyone in this forum has a little of these charecteristics.
But to pigeon hole every one serves no purpose for me other than to
deminish the relationship, and place me in a victim role.
I don't deserve that, I want to grow beyond that, and try to get healthy.
and maybe attract a healthy gal. EVE

You just wanted us to read a dictionary. HA HA

miss communicat

Thanks for the topic

I woke up this morning with an awareness that I tend to use too many labels for the people I interact with.

I am working on paying attention to my inner experience of what others do or behave like.

Why do I not ask for what I need in certain situations? Why do I tolerate incorrect relationship? Why do I expect so little joy in my life?

Sometimes I need to sit in discomfort before releasing a relationship. I'm doing that right now in terms of a special relationship that has presented unaccceptable behaviours. Ouch.

CBrown

"I've learned that trying to figure out other people is a waste of my time. Perhaps a more productive and pertinent question would be "Why am I/was I attracted to someone with those traits?"

I think you all got the wrong impression from my question. I'm not attracted to a misogynist, I dumped him as soon as I found out he was one. I'm curious about the condition, same as I might be bi-polar, OCD, psychopaths, etc. That's why I labeled it OT. I'll just go Google it. I have to say, I'm disappointed that curiosity got turned around as MY problem.

karmakoma

Mysogynists abound in this world. I choose to spend no time in their company. They do not need "treated" because they are not suffering from any illness - where did you get the impression that they are? It's not a condition, Claudia, it's a set of beliefs. Is racism a "condition"?

I have feel a duty to counter any sexist assumptions and behaviour. Sometimes that may be through words, however it is more effective via actions, I think. I am not aware that sexism kills, though. Psycopaths might. And it may be that they are MCPs. But there is probably little correlation beyond some screwed up mommy dynamics.

edit - I do find some of the gender generalisations and attitudes on SR a little difficult, I have to say. But not confined to male to female.

karmakoma

That's not what I said.....

LaTeeDa

It's very interesting to me how your story has "evolved" since joining SR. At first he dumped you for another woman. Then he simply "disappeared" on you. Now you dumped him at the first sign of msogyny.......................

One of the most difficult things I've had to do since separating from my husband is becoming totally honest with myself, even the parts I don't like. I was attracted to an alcoholic and stayed with him far longer than I should have, and far longer than most healthy people would have. That doesn't mean I'm a flawed person, it simply means I didn't know how to make healthier choices at the time.

L

karmakoma

Misandry

good_luck

Misandry

Dang! Karmakoma got there first!

Ok, I will add that misogyny is the hatred of women, misandry is the hatred of men, but it isn't necessarily hatred by the other gender.

shakarris

what is a misogynist?

shakarris

denny57

I've just never noticed misogynists hanging around the halls of SR.

I certainly don't agree with the comment that everyone here has a little of these characteristics.

geees poncho

I hate it when we have all this DISCIDIUM over these trivial subjects

Barbara52

Huh? I can't find that one inthe dictionary!

LaTeeDa

From what I got on Google, it appears to be a heavy metal band!

L

denny57

Latin was one of my best subjects in school.:ghug2

geees poncho

The wife and I had a little DISCIDIUM, and I ended up in jail.



Disagreement

ElektrykEye

Wow you've just perfectly described my AB and the woman of his dreams... which he has told us about many times.

WantsOut

I hate people who hate people.

That makes me self loathing. *woof*

DesertEyes

Thanx, us volunteers spend a lot of time trying to keep them out. If you've never received a flaming PM attacking you for being a woman, if you've never received threats of violence, or been told only a man can properly sponsor you, then the management here on SR is doing a good job.

Unfortunately, you're pleasant experience is not shared by everybody.

Mike