gns

I read a really nice piece here on the difference between "moving on" vs "letting go". It really got me thinking.

I have moved on, but I am not sure about letting go. I still hope he will change, stop doing drugs and doing pot and come back. Is that holding on? I know I don't want the realtionship the way it was. And if it is not letting go, is that bad?

Pick-a-name

I don't know either.....I understand completely what you are saying.

I try to remind myself it is a process and to take one day at a time.

Glad you posted this and I'll be curious to read other replies.

parentrecovers

i know it really helped me let go emotionally, when i physically moved away from my ex. pick is right - it's a process. but when the pain stops coming at you, you have time to get over the past? blessings, k

Cynay

I think we all progress in different time frames.

I dont think that not "letting go" before your ready is a bad thing as long as you know your doing it.

The only time it becomes a problem is when its unhealthy for you or if you bring another person into the mix in a romantic relationship.... I have been in a relationship where he has not "let go" and it is painful for everyone involved....

Rella927

Every part of humanity is designed to hang on. ... I think letting go is to stand outside the emotion. We will not let go before we are ready too- but we can move on for ourselves which can and will take time.

TexasGirl

What a great question. I have definitely moved on. And I'm also at the point where even if this treatment he is in now works out for him, I still don't want to resume the relationship. It was waaaaay too hard to move out once, and the fear of having to do that again outweighs any benefit of resuming the relationship. That being said, I haven't completely let go emotionally yet. I wish I had, but I think time will help heal that. Honestly, I don't know that I will ever 100% completely let him go, but I think the memories will come less often and will be just a recollection instead of a sadness.

That's just me.

elizabeth1979

Letting go and moving on are 2 completely different things to me.

Moving on is to begin having new dreams, ideals, and plans.

Letting go is to completely release myself from current or future responsibility for another person or most likely, any false dreams or ideals.

Just me and how I wrap it up in my head.

Spiritual Seeker

I had to let go of the life I had planned and live the life I have. Movin' on just takes time. Sounds like you are movin' in the right direction