DesertEyes

What I love about being a codie...

In response to the wonderful thread about what we hate, I figured I'd start one about the opposite, cuz for my own recovery I focus on the positive. It's good for me to look at what I hat, because that way I know where I'm coming from. But I focus on the positive cuz that tells me where I'm going.

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I love that recovery has taught me how to give to others without harming myself.

I love that recovery gives me a solution to almost all my problems.

I love that the friends I have made in recovery understand me better than I understand myself.

I love that recovery has given me all kinds of new "tools" to help me fix _me_.

I love that I now have hope for a better life for me.

I love that all my character traits that had become defects (enabling, doormat, etc) are becoming assets (compassion, serenity)

I love that I can now feel proud of my acomplishments without feeling guilty.

I love how I can now take care of my own needs _first_ (catching up on the laundry, getting the bills paid) and _then_ see about reaching out to others.

I love how I can come to this website and get hope from seeing so many people moving forward in their lives and doing better a little bit every day.

I love that I can call myself a "codie" or an "alanoid" or maybe an "alanut" instead of what I _used_ to call myself.

Mike

LGLG07

I love the positive energy of your thread ! great job .. there are so many things to be thankful for and when we feel ourselves slipping we have to think of them again to bring us back to solid ground ! I know I will read and reread this thread often !

parentrecovers

Very nice, thank you. One thing I really appreciate is that by relinquishing my own power, I get to see and experience the strength of others. blessings, k

appleblaster

I love being called an alanon "blackbelt" by alcoholics.

I love how recovery makes me love my reflection in the mirror.

I love not having to be perfect.

I love being my own supply of good self-esteem.

I love the adventure that my recovery has been so far.

I love the silver linings I find almost on a daily basis now.

I love the courage I find her on SR.

I love the "newbies" to recovery because they help my recovery more than they could ever imagine.

I love how recovery has enabled me to let go of things that do not serve me.

I love SR and every shining person here who without I would be truly lost.

Most of all....

I love myself.....without loving myself I could never properly love anyone else.

I'm not where I want to be yet in recovery but as far as i'm concerned its up and out.

chero

I love this thread, Mike!

I'm not where you guys are yet. Lovin yourself?? Can't imagine it. But, I love that you guys give me hope of a better life! Thanks for the encouragement!

From one codie to another!

, Cheryl

kermit

And I love you Mikey

cmc

Thanks Mike!

embraced2000

how did i miss this thread? oh, now i remember.....i was in codie relapse.

i love being a codie because it has taught me many new skills such as:

i'm now a powerful tool for finding ANYTHING

i can go on search, seek, and find mode in 2 seconds flat and find car keys, my hidden little treasures that i've tucked away and forgot about.

i love that i can now be a super-spy....for myself, cause i'm sure not tracking down an alcoholics actions any longer.

i love that i have a full and loving heart (well, most of the time) and it belongs to me

i love that i can intelligently guard my heart and not give it away before it is earned.

i love my sense of intstinct.....it has been honed to near perfection.

i love that now, i am not in charge of the well being of the walking wounded or the affairs of the world. (well, i never was, actually....i just didn't know it)

love, love, love that i no longer feel the need to please beyond reason

and of course, being a codie brought me here, to all you wonderful people.

duet_4-8

Finally coming to this realization was incredible to me. For so many years, I thought that I had to 'forgive and forget' or I was a terrible person-I we all know that being a terrible person is a fate worse than death! *grin*

I love the knowledge that I can forgive, but I don't have to forget.

That it is not only OK, but very wise, not to forget. Not to trust blindly. Not to lose myself in a sick relationship.

That I can actually take care of myself and my children. Maybe we don't have as much materially as we once did, but so what?

And the forgiveness thing-I love that I can finally forgive myself for doing so many insane things over the years desperately trying to turn my marriage into the fairytale.

And like others, I love that searching for answers led me here.

embraced2000

i love that when compelled to help, i can help someone reasonably....without selling the family farm, or exhausting all my mental capabilities.

Cynay

Very Good Thread as usual Mike.... thanks

I love that I not only have the ability to Love very deeply, I have tools to keep myself safe too.

I love being a huge caretaker and today learned that I can give that to people without it taking from who I am.

I love that I finally, finally, finally came to a place that I can detach (most of the time) and protect my heart and look at the situation for what it is...

I love that I have friends that really "get it" and I dont have to do it alone.

giz

Amen! Praise to the powers above.

I spent so long wrapped up in what others thought of me. I think I even worried what ants and termites thought too. Now, I'm full of loving me and it's better than 100 people telling me what they think of me! No 1,000 people.

What the hell, 1,000,000!

Giz

aztchr

Yes! I can still care about others, but in a healthy way as long as I care for myself, too.

Spiritual Seeker

I love that I am no longer strong-willed
I love that I am competent but My need for perfection has diminished
I love that I no longer take everyone else's inventory, only my own
i love that I am becoming more and more spiritual
I LOVE THAT I no longer sweat the small stuff
I love that I am Letting go
I love that I am capable of unconditonal Love