Everyday is a challenge, but it gets alittle easier with support
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Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Canada
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Everyday is a challenge, but it gets alittle easier with support
I should start off by telling everyone alittle of my story. I am in a relationship with a recovering alcoholic/ drug user ( pot smoker). He has been sober for 1yr and 7 mths and clean from pot for 9mths. When I met him he was not in recovery. 3mths of our relationship he drank heavily. When he gave up drinking his pot intake increased. He finally gave it up because he had to be monitored (drug and alcohol screen tests) a condition to get his drivers licience back. He is not in a program. He refuses to go to AA. He sees a councillor, but only because he has to.
As for me I have put in a differcult year plus. I experienced everything from anger,resent, blaming,verbal abuse, him kicking me out. He became someone unrecognizable. I blamed myself, wondered what I did wrong. I even gave up drinking too, anything to help!
Anyway to make a long story short I finally found the strenght to seek help. I had too I thought I was going to have a break down. I had all this bottled up anger and resentment for the way he treated me. I couldn't let go of the relationship. I have been seeing since December, a family councillor at a local addictions center. I discovered I was a codependent. I'm reading great books , The language of letting go,Codependent no more. I have just started going to Al -anon once a week. I'm slowly recovering, finding myself,loving myself. I'm gaining strenght I need for myself. I still have unanswered questions and welcome any advice. I'm glad I found this site.
Thanks
As for me I have put in a differcult year plus. I experienced everything from anger,resent, blaming,verbal abuse, him kicking me out. He became someone unrecognizable. I blamed myself, wondered what I did wrong. I even gave up drinking too, anything to help!
Anyway to make a long story short I finally found the strenght to seek help. I had too I thought I was going to have a break down. I had all this bottled up anger and resentment for the way he treated me. I couldn't let go of the relationship. I have been seeing since December, a family councillor at a local addictions center. I discovered I was a codependent. I'm reading great books , The language of letting go,Codependent no more. I have just started going to Al -anon once a week. I'm slowly recovering, finding myself,loving myself. I'm gaining strenght I need for myself. I still have unanswered questions and welcome any advice. I'm glad I found this site.
Thanks
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Join Date: Apr 2005
Location: Phoenix, AZ
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Welcome to SR....
We are glad you found us too.... Congrads on getting help. I felt the same way when I finally found SR.
The stickies at the top are a good place to start, that and reading around the boards.... Kick back, have some coffee and enjoy the journey. I look forward to getting to know you.
We are glad you found us too.... Congrads on getting help. I felt the same way when I finally found SR.
The stickies at the top are a good place to start, that and reading around the boards.... Kick back, have some coffee and enjoy the journey. I look forward to getting to know you.
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Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Oklahoma
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Wow our situations are sooo similar it was scary! Except my AH thinks he hasn't a problem at all and could quit anytime he wanted to! Puh-lease!
Anyway, welcome! Looking forward to hearing more from you!
Anyway, welcome! Looking forward to hearing more from you!
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