lilac

I took today off of work to finish getting my things from the house.

As soon as I walk in the door there is a 2page letter from AH, saying I either stopped in to get a few things or took the day off to get it all.

All this stuff about how much he loves me, quack, quack, quack.

How he only had 1 beer on sat. and 1 beer on sun.

(((I need to SCREAM!)

AllTooSober

(((lilac))) Try to put it behind you and do what you need to get done today. Whether he loves you or not doesn't affect what you have to do for yourself... this is what I kept saying to myself while moving out of my A-ex-fiance's house and it helped keep me somewhat focused.

Zoey

Go ahead and SCREAM, you have my permission. Like you were waiting for my permission. LOL

It is sad how they try to get us back. If we didn't care we wouldn't care.

Caring, understanding hugs

WantsOut

I'm sorry you have to go through this part. We all did. It's very difficult but it won't last forever. Try to keep your chin up. This is what upbeat music was made for btw - keeps you from sinking into counterproductive bad feelings.

denny57

Hang in there, lilac. Try to remember the insanity of it all - trying to convince someone to stay by the number of drinks you limit yourself to. These are not the conversations adult relationships are made of.

Keep us posted.

lilac

Got everything out I wanted......left a little stuff of mine, I don't care...he can throw it away.....whatever.......

I am safe now. Thanks for the support ! Needed it today, as I am sure I will need it in the future.

AllTooSober

What a relief it must be to have that done with! I'm glad you made it through alright.

Missy

Your doing the right thing. I sent my AH away to heal. He can come back when proven sober. Not sure that will happen. He also tells me the same old
bla, bla, bla.

Just do the next right thing..... it works for me
missy xo

dollydo

Good for you, keep walking forward, don't look back....

chero

Amen to that! I keep trying to think if there was something so important in the past that I needed it now I would have it with me now. Sometimes it's enough to just have ourselves!
Proud of you! Praying for you!
Much Love, Cheryl

hope2bhappy

"They really know how to push our buttons, don't they?"

I'm currently replacing my buttons with combination locks.

MsGolightly

lilac, you're being so strong! i admire it so much! i'm definitely going to have to ask you to borrow some when i need it

steve11694

my wife has been even more creative. The day after she stumbled in at 3AM (after waking me up cause she lacked the eye hand coordination to retrieve the house keys from her bag) stated " someone must have drugged me because i only had 1 beer" Some legwork via a friend of a friend to the actual bartender revealed the actual number of drinks to be TNTC too numerous to count

WantsOut

That's pretty creative, Steve. I like it. She's good. The only better one I've heard recently is the recovering alcoholic who told us that he used to empty out the near beer and put real beer in and drink it in front of his wife while she praised him for his sobriety. ;P

lilac

small step, i know but AH text messaged me last night wanting to know if he could"callme" . I texted back saying no. Gonna keep my phone off tonight.

AllTooSober

Good for you, lilac! I'm so lucky that my ex doesn't "do" email or text messages. He barely does telephones.

steve11694

When we still cohabitated, I'd get calls asking me for lifts to and from drinking establishments, that is after I took the car keys away from her. Other times she called me was to hustle money. I got sick of paying her cell phone bills (family plan) hours and hours on end of alcoholic conversations with other addicts.

One of the boundaries I set was the dont call me unless you want to stop drinking or you need emergency help as in a medical problem, or a problem with our young child (living with grandmother, I am in the courts seeking custody)